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    Spanking Ban

    I'm sure you've heard of it if you're an American who watches the news. I can't say that I know too much about the law other than it's being introduced as a bill in California, and it would make it a criminal offense with up to one year imprisonment to spank a child four years or younger.


    Personally, I think the government has no place to be getting involved here. The main support is coming from politicians who say that spanking is the same as beating a child and there are better ways to discipline a kid other than spanking. I hold my right to raise my children (whenever that may be) how I see fit very high, and I won't put up with lawmakers telling me that I can't reasonably spank my kid. My parents spanked me, and I'll tell you, sometimes I couldn't sit for hours at a time. I learned my lessons pretty quick, though, and honestly, I'm glad they did spank me when I was younger. Sometimes I think society's going soft, and I see no reason for this issue to become a law. In my opinion, this just isn't the government's place.

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    The bill proposes making it illegal to spank children under the age of 3 - basically, you wouldn't be able to spank a 1-2 year old.
    It's also not a national bill...the law would just apply to California (for those who were confused).

    Speaking as a child of someone who used excessive spanking to the point of where it could no longer be considered standard "discipline", I'm really not sure where I stand on this. It's difficult not to give in to bias and start ranting about child abusers and what they consider to be "acceptable" parenting measures. (mind you, I don't believe all spankers are child abusers, but I do believe it can be a doorway/indicator behavior of the like)

    I don't really consider spanking to be an effective discipline tool. It works very well for instant-gratification short-term good behavior, but I'm not so sure in the long run. It certainly didn't teach me anything other than how to be really sneaky.

    Buuuuut, this law...I don't think it would really work, nor do I think it'll pass. In theory, giving your kid a light swat on the butt would land people in jail or a $1000 fine. That's ludicrous.
    Wouldn't they benefit better from some kind of mandatory parental workshop? Something that helps parents explore alternate avenues of discipline?

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    Originally posted by Wicked

    Speaking as a child of someone who used excessive spanking to the point of where it could no longer be considered standard "discipline", I'm really not sure where I stand on this. It's difficult not to give in to bias.

    I don't really consider spanking to be an effective discipline tool. It works very well for instant-gratification short-term good behavior, but I'm not so sure in the long run. It certainly didn't teach me anything other than how to be really sneaky.
    I read somewhere that spanking a child usually yields counter-productive results later in the childs life. I believe the text I read stated that children who are spanked as younger children usually have a tendancy to be more violent than children who are not.

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    Oh, don't get me wrong wicked, I think there's a very broad distinction between spanking and beating, the latter of which I don't condone. But as for a "Light swat on the butt," I personally think that's an important part of growing up to be a mature person, at least for some people.

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    It depends on the childs character whether or not the child will react badly to spanking. I was spanked and I'm fine... ( a subject not to be debated ta much )

    It is DEFINATLY not the governments place to tell you that sort of thing. All it does is try to make up for the few cases of child abuse that occur, and beating isn't the worse you can do to a child for one thing. Think it was debated in England at some point but don't know. Parental classes are better.

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    I support this ban. A parent should NOT hit their child as a method of punishment. Spanking is tantamount to child abuse.

    My mother struck me ONCE in my entire life...she slapped my hand when I was about to stick my fingers in an electrical outlet. That was justified. She wanted to teach me that doing something like that would be painful, without risking me acutally doing it and potentially killing myself.

    But if a parent strikes a child for just being "bad' (not eating their dinner, not going to bed on time, etc.) then that is cruel, and that is child abuse. Physical discipline is not necessary in teaching a child to behave. My parents never spanked me and I grew up to be a very well-behaved child. Spanking a child only teaches them that violence is an acceptable method of punishment and instruction.

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    Originally posted by SpiritWolf77
    Spanking a child only teaches them that violence is an acceptable method of punishment and instruction.
    I understand your view totally but this I'd like to debate. Doesn't it depend more on the developing character of a child whether they are smacked or not? Children that are smacked may either accept it as a punishment, begin to think that violence is the only way in this society, store up the anger they feel and often with murderous consequences (as in the example of Perry Smith, murderer of the Clutters in Capote's In Cold Bloo ) or just ignore it. Children that are not smacked may develope fine, end up wanting to commit violence, be spoilt or allowed to get away with things.

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    Originally posted by Dyani
    I understand your view totally but this I'd like to debate. Doesn't it depend more on the developing character of a child whether they are smacked or not? Children that are smacked may either accept it as a punishment, begin to think that violence is the only way in this society, store up the anger they feel and often with murderous consequences (as in the example of Perry Smith, murderer of the Clutters in Capote's In Cold Bloo ) or just ignore it. Children that are not smacked may develope fine, end up wanting to commit violence, be spoilt or allowed to get away with things.
    The point is, it is possible to discipline children without causing them physical harm. And I don't consider causing children physical harm as a method of discipline to be morally right. Since it is perfectly possibl to discipline any child without hitting them, why cause them harm and risk emotional and physical repercussions?

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    Although its good method with good moral standings, it won't work with some children. They could still grow up to be psychopathic or spoilt. Any other form of punishment would not have worked for me for example. Getting hit is more of a deterrant than a lecture for a majority of children. Anyway, if a child can get away with, it then they would probably try to.
    I was both yelled at and smacked. Smacking worked for me, because when my parents used to get angry and didn't hit me, they'd say bad things. My low self confidence is based in what they have said. I prefer the smacking because its a short term pain rather than a longer term effect.

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    There's no point to this law -- there are already child abuse laws on the books that define clearly what can and cannot be considered abuse, with appropriate authority given to the executive for enforcement.

    Until a parent's actions fit the definition of abuse as decided by a jury/judge, it shouldn't be touched by government. A parent may find spanking repulsive, and choose not to do so. Their decision should not be law.

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    Originally posted by SpiritWolf77
    The point is, it is possible to discipline children without causing them physical harm. And I don't consider causing children physical harm as a method of discipline to be morally right. Since it is perfectly possibl to discipline any child without hitting them, why cause them harm and risk emotional and physical repercussions?
    Being realistic though, spanking a kid causes no physical harm. With a normal spank, there's no mark, no scar, no damage to muscle structure, no bruising, and usually even no redness of the skin. A quick slap on the butt as one of those last resort types of punishments isn't really that big of a deal, and you'd be surprised how quickly it got me in line. Truth be told, I was spanked quite frequently when I was a kid. The result? Two core values of mine are respect for an individual, even when you don't like them, and the non-violent resoultion of issues (and I'm a pacifist). Spanking didn't, in my case, make me violent at all, and honestly, I doubt there would have been any other punishment that'd work for me the vast majority of the time.

    And I know this is gonna be unpopular, but I think people need a certain level of physical harm as a kid. Fallng of a merry go round, toppling their bike, scraping their knee, and getting spanked are all important, I think. There's a reason kids heal faster, and I think it helps people turn into well-rounded adults to not be coddled and protected from any physical harm as kids. Makes them turn into soft, wishy-washy adults if you ask me. Reminds me of when I was ten. During the winter, some friends and I went quad riding in the snow with a sled tied to the back of the ATV. I learned a good lesson that day -- mommy's not always going to be there to get my butt out of trouble when I do something stupid. Getting spanked, I learned that mommy's not always going to be cookies and stories.

    Regardless of whether you agree with spanking or not, though, I see no reason for the government to be stepping in on this one. Raising a child is not, in any way, shape or form, a responsibility or right of the community. That right rests solely upon the parents and, if the parents fail to do their duties to a vast degree, a government official. Because reasonable spanking does not cause any permanent physical harm or lasting emotional damage with the vast majority of kids, the government loses any reason to step in. Sure, people may have gone through life not being spanked and maybe they turned out just fine, but other people are different. As I said before, I got spanked, and I full-heartedly believe that if I didn't, I would have turned out to be quite a different person (and not for the better). I would consider it a crime to not have spanked. There may also be better ways to discipline some children, but personally, I believe in the right to be wrong sometimes, and frankly, I don't forsee a kid getting swatted on the butt a few times having any lasting negative effects.

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    Originally posted by SimbaTheLion
    What my dad did to me didn't teach me respect; rather it taught me how to hate someone. I don't respect everyone either, nor do most people respect me. That's the way of the world. Truth be told - it would be very difficult to respect every single person in the world, no matter what they did. I'm not hiding the fact that if someone killed someone I really cared about, I would want to make them hurt a lot. I'm sure if someone raped and killed people you cared about, then you would want them to hurt too.

    If people make me angry, depressed, annoyed, e.t.c... I probably won't like or respect them as much as someone who treats me well, cares about me, and so on. Of course there are exceptions, but that's usually just if I get obsessed with being nice to someone who is horrible to me. Ahhh, the wonderful intricacies of OCD.
    And that has what to do with spanking? I can only live by my life experiences, and as of right now, I've not met a person who doesn't deserve a even the most basal level of respect. I'm sorry to hear that your dad did something that made you hate him or someone else, but unless you mean he reasonably spanked you, I don't see how that applies.

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    Originally posted by SimbaTheLion
    He hurt me, just as other parents who hit their children hurt their kids. When I was four or five he just gave me 'six of the best' or so he called it. Whacked my *** six times. Ouch. But then it got worse. There's nothing at all to stop it getting worse with other kids too with their parents.

    And, my response was a response to yours. You said being hit made you respect people, and not want to hit anyone else. I was providing my opinion on that, through my personal experience.
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    And, as Darkslash said earlier, there's already child abuse laws in place in the US. I didn't say that being hit made me respect people, being hit normally implies intent to cause harm. I said being spanked. Spanking and child abuse are two different things. I completely support the enforcement of child abuse laws. Personally, I think the government should start enforcing the laws in place before making new ones. In the US, if your father hit you to cause harm, you'd in theory be guaranteed protection from such abuse by the government.

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    Originally posted by SimbaTheLion
    You're probably guaranteed protection here too, but in reality it doesn't happen, or there are many drawbacks associated with it.

    Also, spanking is a type of being hit. Someone else is hitting your body with their hand.
    As I said before, saying that you got hit by your parents normally implies that your parents were beating, punching, or otherwise harming you. I'm aware that spanking can be defined as hitting, but to say "Hit" implies the intent to harm. That's why there's a differentiation made between the two acts.

    I don't see how a spanking ban would help guarantee a child protection if the original child abuse law wasn't enforced well. To me, people should be pressing for better enforcement, not new laws.

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    Originally posted by Wicked
    The bill proposes making it illegal to spank children under the age of 3 - basically, you wouldn't be able to spank a 1-2 year old.
    That makes sense and I agree with that. Children under the age of 3 have little or no concept of right or wrong, so to spank a child as young as 2 would be wrong since the child wouldn't know that what it was doing was wrong. However after the age of 3, I have seen for myself that most children of around 5 or 6 start doing things that they know is wrong, and so spanking would do them good.

    I agree with Pnt, I got spanked quite a lot, I still say my Dad enjoyed it but that's going off on a tangent. I remember doing bad things, and getting spanked for them, that made me not do it again for fear of getting spanked again. It sounds like a form of torment to make a child's mind worry about being spanked for doing naughty things, but what you need to remember is that most children need discipline. Going back, if I'd have only been told off for doing those things, the chances are I'd have done them again because I'd have thought "oh, he only told me off, that's not so bad" instead of thinking "ok, better not do that again, don't wanna be spanked". That's what makes the difference for me, those who think that light spankings are wrong are probably not gonna be good parents, since they won't be tough enough on their kids, and as a result, they'll be the ones going on Supernanny because little Jonny is out of control and mummy and daddy can't cope with it.

    I also agree with Pnt about the distinction between a spank and a proper hit. I was never "hit", only spanked, and that's what made the difference. If I'd have been properly punched and stuff, I might have gotten a complex or something. If parents are hitting their children, then action should be taken against them for child abuse as mentioned before. Spanking, however is not child abuse, I don't care about the "his/her hand spanked me, that's a hit", you need to look at the bigger picture. The child is gonna learn respect and discipline from being "taught" not to do bad things. I might not be the most obedient of people, but I do at least have respect for other people, who knows? Maybe if I'd have not been spanked I'd have turned into someone else, who wasn't as respectful.

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    Why would you want to hit a child that's below the age of 4?

    That could easily kill them aye? Lol.

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    YOU FOOL THERES NO SUCH THING AS GLOBAL WARMING XDDD

    God I hated it when teachers didn't believe me.

    Meh.

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    Its alright KTL, your medication is here now thats it... into the jacket, its for your own good.

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    Quote from STL:
    You're probably guaranteed protection here too, but in reality it doesn't happen, or there are many drawbacks associated with it.
    Then how, "in reality," will a spanking law/ban be enforced?

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    The same way to make sure you don't abuse your fish... basically raid your house every now and then I guess. (The idea to protect your goldish was actually discussed at one point here... Our brains are shrinking, I swear..)

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