The Love Life Thread

[Sadiki]

I'm sorry to hear Tara that you and Leor are separated again. Thought 2 months should go pretty fast especially as winter is over. As winter made me feel like time was going very slow... darn dark winters in Finland... well don't have to go though those anymore. In general it is very calming feeling to know that me and Audra don't have to separate anymore. Our shortest separation was 3.5 months and longest 8.5 months, which is nothing compared to the separations that some of you guys have had, but as said it's not only the length that makes it hard but also the amount of time you get to keep in touch. I think for us the hardest separation was when I was in military and that was only 6 months, but first 2 months I didn't really have chance to get on too much and I only had 3 weekends off during that time. Also the amount of time I would have had to stay in military was unknown so I know it was extremely hard for Audra to bear with the time apart. I'm so glad I got the 6 month service and also the kind of position in military where I had rather a lot of time off and also not as many camps away from base and decent amount of weekends off at least I wasn't in base ever more than 2 weeks in a row.

Now me and Audra have been living together for 6 months and today actually been married exactly 5 months and I do feel very satisfied where my life is at the moment. Yeah I still miss my family and friends at the time, but I'm in happy position in that way that all my friends and family are very understanding about the situation. I still remember the day I knew that it was my last day in Finland... saying bye to every single one of my friends and my immediate family was very hard... pretty much like going through saying good bye to your love for multiple times a day... I think what made it harder was that I am very close to my friends, heck I think my friends know me better than my family, especially during the teenage years I spent way more time with them than with my family and they were like a second family for me. So yeah that was extremely hard to say good bye to everyone, but in the end I know I made the right choice. Because I really think after being separated for as many times as we had been and spending as much money on seeing each others and putting out lives on hold. I don't think we would of been able to bear with that for much longer. It was just getting in the point where the long distance relationship is just getting to you every single day... I couldn't really even see my friends without asking them if it's possible for me to be on at this and this time so I can talk with Audra a little while and all that.

So yeah I know I said it many times on old Lea, but I do recommend everyone to work on the ultimate goal and to be able to move in with the one permanently as meeting up time to time can't be the solution in a long run. I'm very happy that Anna and Adam have been able to get very close this ultimate goal of being together as you guys are now engaged and pretty much living together. As for KS and Leor, for you it might be a little too early to really jump the gun and really know what to do, but I would still talk about it as knowing what the ultimate goal is, who is going to move and what not, makes it a lot easier for the relationship, at least you would know what you work towards. For Bec and Patrick. You guys been in long distance relationship for almost as long as me and Audra were... very soon you guys have been for even longer than we have and I really know how extremely hard it is to be separated for so darn long it is starting to consume your life. You guys have had separations twice as long as our longest ever was and I know your flights are almost double the price of ours or even triple if you think of the cheapest flights I ever bought... for you guys I really admire as I don't think many people could go for such a long period of time apart without going insane, especially as I know, you guys still have no certain plans for the future. I really hope that after the next visit you guys have some point and direction on how you guys want to spend the rest of your lives as I can already see it's getting way hard for you guys to handle the distance in between.
For Nathalie, I know how often people do think an hour or two is not a long distance or doesn't really make it hard to see each other, but in some cases it makes it even harder to plan how to see each other as people are not as willing to arrange their plans around the other in order to see each others. I hope that you too can find a solution that benefits both of you two.

[King Simba]

That's great Nathalie. I'm happy things are picking up for you. I know it sounds cliché, but see? Everything is alright in the end. Sorry about your boyfriend's mum, I know getting along with parents can be quite difficult at times. I have some trouble having conversations with some of Leor's family because of the language barrier. But like Azzy said, just enjoy yourself, and don't let her spoil the fun.

As for KS and Leor, for you it might be a little too early to really jump the gun and really know what to do, but I would still talk about it as knowing what the ultimate goal is, who is going to move and what not, makes it a lot easier for the relationship, at least you would know what you work towards.

Well, we have been throwing quite a few ideas around. I did say to Leor just recently that we'll have to start talking soon about what will happen with regards to moving and such, and he made a few suggestions. He did say I could stay there for quite some time while he does his social service in just under 2 years time, and if I learnt some spanish, I could possibly work with him there. Otherwise, for official plans to move... we really have no idea yet. We have been discussing it but we haven't finalised anything as such yet, probably because it's a little too early like you said.

I think the best time to start making decisions about moving is when Leor has completed his dentistry and social service. Then we can see about the job situation and see what will happen from there. I told him that I don't want the distance to be like this forever (of course, none of us do) and that we should work something out in the future so we don't have to go through so many painful goodbyes again.

There is one thing though... one of us will have to leave our family behind. That will need to be talked about too.

Also, the advantage is Leor can speak English, but my spanish is severely limited. He also has a career in the pipeline, which could make it easier for him to move to England if he decided on doing that. I could (and I would) learn spanish if I needed to, but what comes to it is the safety part as well. Mexico is a country which isn't so safe, with the drug cartels, wars and whatnot. England on the other hand is much safer, but I guess the catch to it is it's much more expensive. =/ Hmm... what to do? I have a feeling this will be a difficult decision when we decide to finalise it.

I seem to be rambling on a bit here, so I'll stop... xP

Well, I just thought some of you may want to know why Leor hasn't returned home yet. Apparently one of the pilots on his flight back to Houston fell ill and had to be taken to hospital, which meant they had to divert to Newark. On the flight information page it said they had to refuel, but my guess is they had to refuel with another pilot. But as a result of this delay (there was also a delay from London too apparently) he ended up missing his flight to El Paso, which means he'll have to fly on the next available flight in the morning. Luckily they put him up in a hotel for the night, so he can get some rest. Then again, if he's still on British time, that could be difficult. I was very worried when I checked the flight status on the Houston airport website and it said "Redirected", but I'm glad everything is fine and he is down safely on the ground. I just hope his flight to El Paso goes smoothly tomorrow and that he'll be back home in no time. I feel sorry for him because he's had a long enough journey as it is, and he's alone too. I wish I could've kept him some company.

Hopefully this won't happen during my flight to Atlanta at the end of June. I get quite nervous flying as it is, so anything like this to happen to me would be very worrying. But I'm sure it'll be fine, I won't let this put me off... xP

Well, I'll end this post with the last picture of Leor and I taken at the airport just before he had to go through security:


It wasn't a very nice time to take a photo, but I wanted one last photo of us together before he had to go. We obviously weren't so happy so there's not many smiles on here, but I still think it's a nice photo. Emilio still looks wonderful even without a smile.

But yes, I prefer "hello" better.