Katari
As far as being gay vs. choosing to be gay goes, well, I feel that nobody is born gay. If you can show me a study where that is proven, then I'll recant, but homosexuality, to me, is a personal choice, not the whim of some cosmic force (meaning God). Saying that someone is born gay is simply a means of making them not responsible for their actions. Now, attraction is a different story. While no one is born gay, they can develop those tendencies and attractions based on their own personalities and/or events in their life.