Oh, I realize that the small space was just really warm and my grandmother was wearing perfume which gives me a headache.
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Oh, I realize that the small space was just really warm and my grandmother was wearing perfume which gives me a headache.
Wow... Second day here, and I'm already in a depressive mood...
Okay, it isn't really ME that needs help. It's a friend of mine. She practically lives in Hell itself, right along with her father, the devil. He's so mean to her... She can hardly get on the computer to talk to me without getting yelled at, can't get presents in the mail, or even mail at all without her dad threatening to intercept them and ground her/destroy the mail and presents. She recently got grounded, probably for a month, for getting a present - a CHRISTMAS PRESENT - in the mail from an online friend. Her father is ALWAYS grounding her for stupid little things! She doesn't have any freedom, any rights, and any abilities to live her own life. I'm surprised he's even letting her stay in his house. He's dominating, cruel, and just an overwall b*stard.
None of her friends like him. And since he grounds her from the computer, where her ONLY friends are, she's always alone... Out of high school, trying to get independant, and he doesn't support her at all. She does the majority of the house chores while he folics off with his girlfriend!
Ugh... I just... I just hate the fact that I can't do anything to help her... She's always so happy, and even wanted to mail me some presents of my own, but her mail sometimes "mysteriously" never reaches their destination. I don't know what to do...
Sorry to hear about your friend Nicoga (love your gryphon fursona by the way ;)) It must be really tough, the best thing is just do all you can to be there for her. Maybe she should even consider moving out of home to somewhere where she'll be better supported.
She's trying to do that, since a friend of hers lives near the college she wants to attend. I guess she just needs time to plan it all out before going for it, but I know how it feels to make a big decision like that when you're being dominated all the time... [*clacks beak* Thanks]
I just hope he doesn't HURT her. By the things and the way she tells me about him, it sounds like he has anger issues and even might be violent.
If she is over 16 she has the legal right to move out. If its that bad, i would get social services onto the case if it gets that bad.
Im am sorry to hear bout what is happening to your friend. I just hope things will be ok and nothing bad happens.
Much many more times than that my friend. The first time was when I was 15 when I had a myocardial infarction. Caused by high cholesterol and hypertension. Then the car accidents crept in along, I was like... "Geez."Quote:
Originally posted by Lt. Trevor
Look on the bright side, you've cheated death three times.
I don't know, sometimes I think Death's trying to tell me something.
:hmm:
Thankfully, my fear of driving/riding in automobiles is far less and almost a non-existent these days...
:cheese:
I guess elevators are a bit creepy though, but l00k on y0ur bright side, there's the alternative staircase, as aforementioned.Quote:
Originally posted by Lt. Trevor
I'm scared of elevators, and seeing the elevator fall in The X Files episode "The Ghost in the Machine" made it worse, I get the feeling that the elevators are going to fall when I get in. I'm just gonna keep using stairs or escalators.
;)
Well I can see why she would get grounded for the present from the online friend. Does she know the "friend" personally? Not all of the people you meet are who they say they are.Quote:
Originally posted by Nicoga
Wow... Second day here, and I'm already in a depressive mood...
Okay, it isn't really ME that needs help. It's a friend of mine. She practically lives in Hell itself, right along with her father, the devil. He's so mean to her... She can hardly get on the computer to talk to me without getting yelled at, can't get presents in the mail, or even mail at all without her dad threatening to intercept them and ground her/destroy the mail and presents. She recently got grounded, probably for a month, for getting a present - a CHRISTMAS PRESENT - in the mail from an online friend. Her father is ALWAYS grounding her for stupid little things! She doesn't have any freedom, any rights, and any abilities to live her own life. I'm surprised he's even letting her stay in his house. He's dominating, cruel, and just an overwall b*stard.
None of her friends like him. And since he grounds her from the computer, where her ONLY friends are, she's always alone... Out of high school, trying to get independant, and he doesn't support her at all. She does the majority of the house chores while he folics off with his girlfriend!
Ugh... I just... I just hate the fact that I can't do anything to help her... She's always so happy, and even wanted to mail me some presents of my own, but her mail sometimes "mysteriously" never reaches their destination. I don't know what to do...
Yeah, she does. I believe she's met him face to face once. Talks with him on the phone... It's just that her dad is paranoid about her being with people he doesn't know, including any real life friends. She has none. Which, with a dad like him, I would see why...
Okay...is she his age?
Oh and my dad's a bit like that, except he doesn't care about my real life friends.
My Dad doesn't care either...but that's because he's dead...I'd say he was a little better of a father when he was alive...:D
But how old is your friend? Her day may just be over protective at points and he can be mean about it. Maybe what you're confusing as being mean is actually him just being firm?
She's 18 or 19. She always tells me what her dad does and all the crap she puts up with... No one likes him, including me. He just REALLY needs to lay off making her life miserable while he tries to spiffy up his own... He acts like she's loose baggage...
...If she's 18 she can now press charges, legal age...she can even sue over the stuff she owns should he beg to differ.
She's too soft... She won't do that to her own family. She doesn't even stand up for herself over almost anything.
*sigh* This is all frustrating... I'm sorry for doing this. I just... can't stand seeing her like this...
Hmm... well if she was under 18 a suggestion would be to call a local department of child protective services. Since she's 18, she should make her dad eat some Miranda rights.
But if she's skittish, perhaps some external help is warranted (all of what I've said would be appropriate, however it's also highly dependant on the demeanor of her dad).
I don't know if he's one of the violent types or not, but it still worries me. I just hope she can hurry and get out of there if she's so miserable.
Thanks everyone, at least..
Ugh.
Just came back from the hospital about 2 and a half hours ago. How scary is it when a family member has a seizure right in front of you. Don't want to talk much about it; I think I'll take some off-time.
:(
wow, i'm sorry to hear that sonique :(Quote:
Originally posted by SoniqueX
Ugh.
Just came back from the hospital about 2 and a half hours ago. How scary is it when a family member has a seizure right in front of you. Don't want to talk much about it; I think I'll take some off-time.
:(
and take as much time as you need, we'll all still be here for you when we come back :) :hugs:
Sorry, Sonique :hugs: And like Dan said, we'll be here for ya ;)
:( i'm always here for a chat or a hug Sonique! :hugs:
Sorry to hear that, Sonique... Um... I guess there's nothing much I can offer, but please don't get worried about posting here. Just.. take as much time as you want, 'kay?
Thanks everyone. What I meant by off-time is work time for the most part, but not limiting to the Internet. Because the Internet helps reduce stress, and it helps to keep your mind off real problems that you might be having; however not with outstanding adverse effects.
Again, I appreciate your guys' ♥.
Thanks! :hugs:
-Sonique
i do that a lot sonique :D but like i said before, we're all here for you :hugs:Quote:
Originally posted by SoniqueX
Thanks everyone. What I meant by off-time is work time for the most part, but not limiting to the Internet. Because the Internet helps reduce stress, and it helps to keep your mind off real problems that you might be having; however not with outstanding adverse effects.
Again, I appreciate your guys' ♥.
Thanks! :hugs:
-Sonique
*squeezes Dan a HUGE hug* Oh, sorry. I popped out your glass eye. Many apologies.
:p ; ) ...
Thanks again, buddy ... :hugs:
*grabs glass eye* phew, there's a drain there :pQuote:
Originally posted by SoniqueX
*squeezes Dan a HUGE hug* Oh, sorry. I popped out your glass eye. Many apologies.
:p ; ) ...
Thanks again, buddy ... :hugs:
:idiot: Funny Guys
Well I feel abit pain in the thoat, like when I cough it give me the pain you know.
Something has been concerning me before I left the United States.
My father took me, my younger brother, and my mother to this Mastadon Site. It was very fun, being there with the scenery and such.
I like doing those things.
My mother wanted to stay in the car and sleep, she works alot and it didn't bother me too much. While we were walking around my little brother asks my dad, "Why doesn't mom want to be with us?"
I knew why. She'd worked so much and she didn't really want to go hiking in these mountains.
My dad replied, "She doesn't want to be with us anymore."
If I was my younger brother, that would scare me. It would hurt me as well. I scoffed and shook my head. what a wreck my family is. My parents are spiritually sepreating and my father behaves as if no one loves him.
But we do.
Later on, about an hour later, we were deep on the trail. My little brother is ahead shaking a tree and chanting like some God of the fairies gone wild, and my dad says,
"When I said that mom doesn't want to be with us anymore, I was joking. Ben made a radical statement and I was just replying in the same manner. You know?"
He's always covering his tracks. I know, I've heard and it's mentally sick.
I told my mother in the gas station. Not to be Spite the Fairy but to inform her that there are things going on, and as to why I stay secluded from the family in my room for days at a time.
So when we get home she tells me father. I'm in the loft and I hear it at the end. He says he's angry with me, and she doesn't want him to be. So she says she's tired of being in the middle and she's done talking to people. My dad at first however thoughtit was Ben, but was more shocked when he heard it was me and was angry.
I confronted him, and told him that I heard both his stories. But I also felt in my heart that he was covering tracks in fear of being hated if we told mother. so he wanted to sedate me, make me forget with a soft exit. I didn't. I can't.
He starred at me all through dinner, and mumbled in the kitchen.
I love him, but he is also something I fear. Not in the respectable manner like I fear God. I'm on his hit list so to say haha.
I'm glad I'm away for now. But I don't think I will every be right upstairs.
I wonder if anyone's else parents do this? Or, is it just me alone?
:pQuote:
Originally posted by Fendi
:idiot: Funny Guys
"I'm funny how? I mean funny like I'm a clown, I amuse you. I make you laugh. Whadda mean funny? How am I funny?" - Joe Pesci
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The light will show you the way. ;)
Been there, done that. :evilgrin:Quote:
Originally posted by Fendi
The light will show you the way. ;)
Yada yada yada!
@Utora: :hugs: =) !!!
Would it make me a bad person if I felt like putting my fist through someone's head right now?...:D
no, of course not!!! why would you think that??
Mmm...I didn't know where to put this, so I'll just put it here.
My Grandad is ill. It was just a cold the other day, but he isn't feeling well anyway - chest problems and stuff. He's in bed and my mum is there waiting for the doctor. I'm going over, but I'm kinda scared it will remind me of my nan and what happened. Her being in bed all the time, and having to wait for the doctor there. Just basically watching her deteriorate. I'm scared the same will happen with my Grandad.
Aww, Lucy. :hugs: It seems that my Grandad is in the same boat too. :(
We've been receiving phone calls from the hospital all night saying that my Grandad (who is 84) is turning for the worst. I went with my mum and dad to visit him yesterday and he seemed to be pretty ok--well, at least you could get something out of him.
He's been put on a drip and he's had to be put on oxygen since he's not breathing as he should. It started off as a chest infection but now, apparently it has lead to him catching pneumonia.
My dad is very worried and doesn't know if he should go to work or not. He's worried about his dad and what will happen to him. Last time he was in hospital was 4 years ago when he'd just turned 80. He pulled through that time--it was something to do with his smoking addiction so he gave up shortly afterwards, along with my dad.
Now, we're starting to think he's not gonna pull through this time. :( It's just making me feel so bad and worried lately.
Anyway, Lucy. I hope your Grandad pulls through sooner or later. :hugs: I remember when my mum had to be my Grandma's carer for 4 years when she had liver serosis. I never saw the last of her but I'm determined to see the last of my Grandad and I will be going to his funeral when the time comes.
Sorry to hear that about your guys' grandparents, it's very scary to see family members bedridden. I wish I could comfort you guys a lot more... Here's wishing for the best.
-Sonkakee :hugs:
aww, i wish i could make them better for ya. :( thats so sad....*hugs*:hugs:
*sighs sadly*
Well, I just went downstairs and my dad just told me that he died, at 11am. I'm incredibly upset as I am whenever I lose a close family member. I was sorta seeing this coming, especially after all the phone calls we had the night before last. He was ok the last time I saw him but he was still poorly. He was asking for drinks to be brought to him and was asking for people to plump his cushions up.
I didn't expect to see him go so quickly though, especially since he only went in on Monday. :( Now, that's both my dad's parents gone and now there's only one of my mum's living, so I only have one Grandparent left. He's 80 this year but still seems pretty healthy and fit and I get to see him more regularly than I did my other Grandad--I hope to see him last a few more years yet.
So, to sum things up. I'll be off to his funeral to pay my last respects.
Really sorry to hear that KS :(
:hugs:
Lucy I hope your Grandad shows improvement and that he gets well soon :hugs:
And KS, I'm so sorry to hear about your grandad passing away, it's never easy when someone dies :hugs:
Sorry, KS... :tears: :( :hugs:
*hugs KS* aww. :tears: