That's great to hear Tiikeri, good to know you're in good health :)
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That's great to hear Tiikeri, good to know you're in good health :)
What a huge relief to hear you're doing alright, Tiikeri.
told you it was the right thing to do, so far no one seems to be really mad at ya =) *Hugs* Its just really releaving to hear that you are doing okay as I said on MSN earlier today =3Quote:
Originally posted by Tiikeri
Ok this thing is a little late arriving, if you wanna know why then ask me. And if STL tells you otherwise about this then he's wrong ok?
Long and the short of it, I don't have lung cancer. I did get a letter from the NHS (National Health Service) telling me I had cancerous lungs, but also I got another letter about a fortnight later telling me they'd made a huge mistake with the results and I'd got some 80 year old's results and he got mine. Yes I know you're all thinking "BS" but yeah, I just thought I'd come clean about that, perhaps a little late but yeah. So far I've only told Sharifu and KTL about this, but really you should all know. I guess some of you may have had you're own doubts and whatnot, but this is how it really happened. Again, if you wanna know why I never told anyone until now, then ask me.
Oh and I posted in here because it was the most appropriate place rather than making a new thread which I didn't really wanna do.
~KTL
*snerk* The NHS just win, they really do.
The shower of shoite they have at the NHS couldn't get pissed in a brewery. They did the same thing to my Grandad, except the other way round, they told him he didn't have cancer, then he died of cancer.Quote:
Originally posted by Nephilim
*snerk* The NHS just win, they really do.
Makes you worry for the future generation if this is "quality" health care :E
Well, both my sisters have their liscence and they are both younger than me. I have had this long time fear of driving that I am just starting to get over. Now I want to get my liscence, but I still have some fear that is holding me back. I don't know where this fear is coming from but I want to get over it. I never really want to drive on the highway though. I had this fear even before the major car accident I was in a few years back. :alone:
hakuna matata, im there with you, im still workin on me permit, i refuse to go out into the street til i got 1st gear down
I rejected my license a few years back. And then again on 2003. Though I passed both the written and driving exams that were required by law, I just rejected the license before I actually got it. Being in 3 major accidents in my life is 3 too many. All never occurred when I did drive. But the effects on me were profound. So now I rely on pooling, biking, or walking. I did a few session talks with a therapist not long ago; it helped out a lot, but it didn't cure me. Only I can do that. I don't require driving at this time: because I have enough family and friends to help me out of that aspect of my life (although I do a little local running, hehe). I would suggest therapy, if anything, it's a start. Because if you can't get over your fears, they'll eat you alive, no joke.
I have a fear of parking. I suppose my peripheral vision isnt the greatest, which is why I've had two embarassing parking accidents, all of which occur on the passenger side of the car. That's why I want a smaller car... it would be easier to judge the distance of the car from objects.
As far as tips, do you have your permit yet? All I have to say is just get out there and drive, the more you do it, the more you get used to it. When you're driving or parking, never feel rushed to do anything because that's when accidents happen.
I'm scared being in a car ... One of the reasons I haven't got my license yet.
Also, I had 2 major accidents ... I am terrified of what other people do, so in others words, I probably don't trust all other people riding their cars when I'm on the road :s
And also, I just don't have the vision for it ... I just can't see that I'm in between the white lines, haha
However, I know how it works, there's a huge parking lot nearby, where I practiced, hehe
I'm just plain lazy. :p I still haven't got mine yet but probably will have to real soon, seeing that I'm almost 19... But I do have a slight fear of driving. I don't know why though. I've never been in a real accident though (maybe a little fender-bender thingie) and so I don't know where the fear would come from. I'm not sure what to say to ya to help or encourage other than "hang in there and do your best." I hope you're able to overcome this fear though. :fini:
I really can't see myself on the highways either, but I soon have my license, on monday I'll do this writing part, then I'll just have some driving lessons more on the highway (which will be simple, 'cause I've been driving there a lot while driving through a couple of big citys) And then it's this parking thing but I can park a car good, so I don't think that will be any problem. My teacher says I'm driving too slow all the time ^^ But I'd rather drive slow, and not fast, 'cause cars are scary.
I hope you can come over your fear anyway...a little at least, and that you can have your license if you really want to. Just because I have a car (crappy audi xD) and license doesn't mean I'll drive every day, probably just when my dad force me to the store. It's driving me nuts ^^
So please hold your thumbs on monday my writing part will go well ... :eek:
what is an NHS xX?
National Health Service. Tiikeri mentioned what the acronym meant in an earlier post.
I am about to get my liscence tomorrow actually, and I waited quite a while. The best thing you can do, is to drive, and to practice. I started out when I was 17 I believe, and I have been driving on my learner's since then. I wasn't that nervous when I began, but I am so much more comfortable now. The best thing you can do is be aware, pay attention to what your parents have to say, (I dont know if it's required there) but take Driver's Education. That will give you some Behind the Wheel experience, to add on to regular driving with your parents.
Really, the freeway is not the scariest, or worst place to drive on. Country roads, and residential roads are much more dangerous. They are narrow, have many more threats to look out for, and have stop signs and signals. The freeway has much more space, no stopping, no pedestrians, etc. So really, it is a safer place to drive in terms of the liklihood of an accident.
Basically, you just have to realize that driving is realtively essential to the world today. Especially in the U.S where there is a lot more space, and things are spread out etc. It really isn't as scary or dangerous as you think. Just know your stuff, be defensive, and you will do fine.
~Kiva
On the lines of encouragement, it's a thing of having self confidence. I know, easier said then done. I won?t dispute the fact that being on the roads today make for a scary prospect. A lot of motorists will pretty much eat you alive if you let them smell blood in the water. I for one hate driving for these reasons alone, but I live a kind of solitary lifestyle and it's a necessity for me. I'm one of those people who doesn?t like moving anywhere if I can't directly see it myself. (i.e. I hate backing up using my mirrors, since I can't see things directly.)
As far as tips go, same as Xinithian said. Practice makes perfect and all that jazz. Best of luck to everyone who's doing this.
I remember how driving used to seem like a big deal. It's amazing just how tiny of a deal it is now (at 20 years of age)! :cheese: As has been said before, just get your license and start driving and you'll be doing fine. I haven't gotten into any major accidents because I almost always go the speed limit and keep my eyes peeled, so that's probably led to my sense of comfortability with driving. And don't let those road tests scare you! When I was in drivers ed, I hit so many cones! :lol: Outside of class, I haven't hit anything! :cheese: Just jump right in there and don't be afraid! :cheese:
Well, for one..you aren't supposed to be backing up with just your mirrors...lol...maybe that is why you dislike it so much? You are ALWAYS supposed to actually look behind you, etc. (as long as that is possible)
I have done perfectly fine with everything related to driving..and I have to tell you...there is not much to be afraid of. You can't really say you dislike, or won't do well at something, etc etc, unless you have tried it first. The key goal is for YOU to be a great driver, and thus you will avoid accidents, and tickets. It IS possible to go through your whole life without an accident, as long as you pay attention and obey the rules.
You just have to look at it logically. The safety, and practicality of driving far outweigh the risks and that is why people continue to make it an everyday thing...which you should be able to do as well just fine. :)
Merged.
Hmm...driving can be intimidating when you first start out. People here have given some good advice. One thing I suggeest is practice Defensive Driving (unless you're on the freeway, then it's a free for all...:D ) I didn't get my license until I was 20 years old because I couldn't afford it until then...and it was probably a good thing to wait...you're a lot more matured and all at 20 than 15 or 16, so I think you may be ready, but that's up to you to decide....sometimes, all it takes is just getting yourself a little more confidence and all.
Thanks for the tips, everybody. We will see how things go when I get my learners for the third time. :hugs:
EDIT: And it seems to me, I do lack self confidence in alot of stuff. So that is one thing I definately need to work on.
I had another seizure today...my second since end of December, and third in 6 yrs...at 4:00 am. I didn't realize it, but my mom heard me...I have an alert monitor in my room and when I came too I had the worst stomach sickness. Not any ordinary sour stomach...I mean, REALLY sick. My stomach was in knots. I felt like crying but I could barely even move. I just wanted to vomit and vomit. I was scared. Why does life have to be such a bowl of sh&t sometimes???? I've felt like crap all day, and now I can't go riding [horses]!! Because I have a dermatology appointment tommorrow that was supposed to be today 'cept I had that friken seizure!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't know how much more I can take!!!! I've been taking anti-seizure med, but it doesn't work. So I'm depressed, learning disabled, epileptic, and angry. Oh, thank you for letting me rant. I just feel so angry and discouraged. I know lots of people have it worse, but why do people have to suffer so much?
I have been on anti-seizure medication most of my life. I take tegretol (spelling?). Maybe you should talk to your doctor about different medications to control it. I don't know your complete situation so that might not work. I can barely remember what my seizures were like. It has been a while since I last had one. I remember them being like a phase of complete loss of brain power/cognitive capabilities. For example, I could be holding my shoes right in front of me and be told to put them on and I would say something like "where are my shoes?".
EDIT: I can't believe I forgot to say this. I hope you feel better/get better soon.
I don't know a cure for seizures, but I can empathize with depression. The vomitting and the illness - I'm living it right now. The best thing you can do is find a sanctuary. I see you love horses, as do I and if you're a fanatic, they are an outlet for your anger and depression. So, taking that away does nothing to help.... but knowing that cannot be amended you need two things.
1 : A good and quiet place for you to be yourself.
2 : Someone to talk to.
I understand my depression differs from yours, greatly. In this case I'm seeking to kill and inflict pain on people and siblings. You are in a state of self anger, and inflecting anger, self doubt, questioning, confusion, and all lost hopes upon yourself. That is the worst thing to do. I would love to talk with you elsewhere - if you'd like to you can contact me on one of my messangers. As for the medication, I'd inform anyone above you. Parents, doctors - the works. They may , in the end, not be able to help. You know talking helps the mind and soul in ways you can't imagine.
Sorry to hear that.
When I was in eighth grade, my shunt (an apparatus that drains fluid from my head to my shunt) dislocated itself or something, and I had to get it replaced. I went in for brain surgery two weeks before a class trip to a theme park I LOVE. I was really, really lookin' forward to going.
But I don't let my hydrocephalus get me down, and you shouldn't let your epilepsy (?) get you down, either.
To Somby: Helpful advice first, thread placement next. The last thing a depressed person needs is someone telling them "hey, add to this thread instead of starting your own".
Somehow I got the feeling someone would say that. Sadly, I have no helpful advice to give, so perhaps pointing her in the direction of people that do is the next best thing.Quote:
Originally posted by ChildOfThePride
To Somby: Helpful advice first, thread placement next. The last thing a depressed person needs is someone telling them "hey, add to this thread instead of starting your own".
Thanks for everyone's support. I just don't know what to think anymore...I guess I just need to sleep, and I've been seeing a therapist--as "crazy" as that sounds to some people, it helps. I think I just need a good night's sleep and some time to think. I know my problems will never be a closed book, but I feel good, just getting everything out.
And the people that are capable of helping her are able to read this thread as well.Quote:
Originally posted by Sombolia
Somehow I got the feeling someone would say that. Sadly, I have no helpful advice to give, so perhaps pointing her in the direction of people that do is the next best thing.
If you didn't have any helpful advice to give, then you shouldn't have posted in the thread.
That's all I'll say in the matter.
I'm no doctor, but if you want my advice, which I think would be good to follow, I'd take the magazine of the firearm if it's a slide-action, walk outside, and throw it as far as you can. If it's a revolver, I'd take the chamber and do the same; that'll keep you from doing anything you'd regret. If you don't think you're stable enough to do that, then I'd get as far away from a weapon as posssible. Then, and I'm saying this as a friend, I'd suggest contacting your local emergency services and telling them the situation; there's people that can help, and they know how to handle these issues. I'm asking, and pleading, that you calm down, take a couple deep breaths, and distance yourself from any weapons and get some help. It'll be alright, bud, and it'll all work out, but you gotta be calm and take the right steps. The right steps at this point in time are to get away from the situation and get some help from people who know what they're doing. I'm on MSN if you need me; we can talk and work through this.Quote:
Originally posted by Utora
i don't what advice i need what direction but I'm screaming for help. I'm going to start killing on the drop of a hat. i can't stop my anger it's going somewhere and there's going to be corpses. I'm hungry I'm tired I'm angry but I'm focused on one point and i wish someone would just tell me what I'm looking for...I need help..the better side of me is admitting it and the darker side is laughing and withdrawing the gun. I hid for a good week and a half....but i can;'t do that i hurts...someone just help. for the love of everything holy..i need some help and i can't find it...
If it's less severe than what I've come to understand thus far, then I'd suggest still taking some time to calm down, and go read a book. Yeah, that sounds dumb, but it'll get your mind off your troubles for a bit. Then I'd suggest talking to someone who's there for you (Again, I'm available on MSN) and going from there. Either way, this is going work out just fine as long as you take the steps to get help; either from a professional or a friend, depending on the severity. We all need a bit of a helping hand sometimes, bud, I know I do right now, and we're here for ya.
and also a person who is down or depressed doesnt want to hear people telling each other off soQuote:
Originally posted by ChildOfThePride
And the people that are capable of helping her are able to read this thread as well.
If you didn't have any helpful advice to give, then you shouldn't have posted in the thread.
That's all I'll say in the matter.
stfu plz. Thanks
Sombolia did what was right, that thread is THERE for a reason.
Mmm, thank you KTL.
CotP, please don't try and start an arguement with me. Let's just drop this, yes?
That thread is there for a reason, I was merely pointing it out.
Enough. Sombolia, I am glad you are trying to help and I beloieve you believe you are doing the right thing, though you could have been a bit more polite about it. However, there is a big difference between needing general advice and being severly ill. Kiara is looking for medical help, not a shoulder to cry on. I believe she may have made a post about this before that I am going to search for, however, I wouldn't feel right myself merging this with general advice unless requested by Kiara. If another mod/Admin feels differently, then so be it.
I don't want to hear anymore on the subject.
Kiara, getting seizures that often can be a sign of brain tumors. If you haven't already, get yourself checked ASAP. Good luck.
So sorry to Hear this :(
Must be a big bummer to have this kind of illness.
My brother was epilectic and the Army Had to discharge him (Cant really have a epilectic solider) and the the army was basicly his life. After he got discharged he was depressed as hell and didnt know what to do.
But he started to go into other work instead such as Secrutity and bodygaurds for famous people etc. During the 4 years he was doing this new work he didnt have no more epiletic fits and he proven to the Army he was fit enough to come back in because he grown out of his epilsey and he is now currently plannning to get back into the army.
The reason for me telling this story is a way to say no matter what happens to you, you always will find a way around bad things like what you have. You will become just as sucsesfull as you always wanted to be when you come out at the other end :hugs:
I really do hope that you you do get better :hugs:
Thnx babe. ||Merged||Quote:
Sorry to hear this Kiara. I know a lot of people with epilepsy with varying severity (some have up to ten or so seizures a week), so it does suck a lot. I'd definitely suggest getting hold of an epipen, if you can.
Thanks, everyone, for the additional advice. I've only had three seizures in 16 years (that'd be my whole life)--but it's still hard. I had my first one at age eleven, was in the hospital over THANKSGIVING because I fell down and hit my head. Then, this past Christmas (2005 of course), I had another, right after Christmas day :( . Then, just a day ago, of course, I had another one. Every time I have one I'm as sick as a dog and I feel like my stomach is eating itself. :( This, combined with my anger management problems (I'm not violent, but I have a fine temper :eek: ) and my learning disability, makes me feel kind of down sometime. I know lots of people have had it worse, but I just need a sympathetic ear, maybe even some advice....and I just needed to get it all out.
P.S.: Somby, it's okay you needed\wanted to merge the threads, you were just doing your job. :hugs:
Sorry, posted this in solicitude by mistake so I had to move it :E
I have a question, well, it's not exactly a question, it's more of an event that happened that I want your opinions on.
Ok what happened was this, it's 21:10 over here. It's the end of the week and I've finished work until Monday, when my supervisor phones my house and asks if I can go into work tomorrow and Sunday and work 9-6:30. I was really pissed off that he actually called me and wanted me to work 7 days, then going back to work on Monday and doing another 5, making 12 days straight. So I just said "No, I've done my work and I've made other plans for the weekend" so he just went "ok, thanks anyway" and hung up. And I was left really annoyed by the fact he rang me, I can't even get away from them in my own house! And I thought it was rude and inconsiderate of him. And I've heard stories that he does it to others too. So do you all think he's being rude or am I just getting all worked up over nothing?
Your getting worked up. As an employee, you have a responcibility to the business. That means being willing to catch openings when othjer people get sick or have emergencies. Your boss has to do whatever it takes to get things working right. Of course, since you did make other plans, there was nothing wrong with saying "no". He can't force you to come in on your days off. Also, your boss has responcibilities as well. If he continues to have such a shortage of workers that he needs to make people work 7 days a week, then he needs to look into hiring more employees. he is solely responcible for the health and safety of you and your co-workers, and has labor laws he has to follow.
For the record, some employees look to pick up extra shift if they want the money, and have nothing better to do. I just jumped from 5 to 6 days a week(part time to full time), at my own request.
I have to disagree, I don't think you have any responsibility to that company outside of the hours you're scheduled to work. My boss tries to pull that crap with me all the time, and with as much as I care about him, I'll tell him that I'm scheduled when I'm scheduled. Now, if it's a matter of 600 people showing up on a minimum staff day, I'll come in as a personal favor, not because it's my responsibility. I'd be a bit annoyed, personally, because you have a life outside of that career, and you shouldn't be waiting for every beckoned call of your employer. Unless that's in your contract, or job description, such as a doctor, EMT, firefighter, etc...
I didn't make other plans, I'm just not sacrificing my days off for the sake of spending two more days at a hell hole like Primark, and not getting a day off for 12 days.
But that's not my beef, I'm annoyed at the fact that he phoned me at home, if he'd have asked me when I was already at work then it would be a different story. But he phoned me at home when I was relaxing and wanted to get as far away from work as I could, I just found it really rude and inconsiderate.