Originally Posted by
Sharifu
I hate it when people say, "You choose to be in this relationship." Yes, it is true you choose to be in a relationship with that person, but you already fell in love with them, so much so, that the pain of not being together is far worse then dealing with some time of separation. Honestly I kind of feel like if you decide not to be in a relationship with someone you love just because you have to deal with distance and be separated at times, then you must not love that person very much. Obviously you think, "Well I don't want to deal with a long distance relationship, so I just wont be with this person because I'd rather find someone else who lives closer to me to replace him/her." That might be a little more harsh then what you are thinking, but that is how I picture it. Yes, the separation was hard, and it always got harder over time. But there are neat things about long distance relationships too. Being able to travel and go to different countries was a neat experience for me. I don't think I would of been able to go to Europe if it wasn't for me being with Petteri. (That is not why I got together with him though, haha) Besides, long distance relationships eventually become "normal" relationships if that's what you want in the end. It may take many years, it will take a lot of money, and a lot of work. But I think if you are willing to go through all that for the person you love, then your love is really strong.