Community Advice Thread

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Originally posted by Utora
I hate the sin, not the sinner.

I am sorry that it came to this, and you know how I feel.
As I said, there are other options but one chooses death?
The paradox is; I cannot say I didn't wish for this, for my speech contradicts it, but I did not wish for it this way, directly.
In the end -


I just cannot believe you did it under my name, for my instinct tells me this is your cause of illness. Me.

I do not feel guilty however. I didn't force it against your will. I am just shocked.

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Utora, under no circumstances are you ever to contact me again. You did wish for this, Utora, you cannot deny that. Don't you worry though, you aren't the cause of all this, you're merely one of a few catylists. But as I said before, you will never contact me again, and that's all I have to say to you.

I hope nothing serious happened, and I really hope you'll be better soon, and that you'll feel much better !

um, ok. i hope you'll be back on your feet soon, pnt.:hugs:

I am not in a good position. It has alot to do with death threats, explosives, stalkers, private property, guns, stealing a vehicle and my name. First let me state I didn't kill anybody or harm little ones in any way here - at least, I think not. BUT - I did take the vehicle. :lol:

At the same time I go to Russia in about 7 hours. The police are thinking, "Culprit found - culprit fleeing country." along those lines etc etc.

Also they've disocvered some stuff of mine - nothing too promising for the politcal junkees out there and now they want to take me in. Mental lab I donno' but what I'm saying is if I dissappear between now and the end of March for no explained reason, just know it's because I don't want to be in jail that I'm gone. I'll probably make it to Russia without them inquiring me, but once I'm over there I don't think it will be any better from what I'm being told.

Am I scared? More than I've ever been in my life.

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In 7-8 days I'm going through an operation, my ribs are actually going to be breaked out. (Not out of the skin of course). Well, the actual reason is, when I was a kid, I was really FAT! Then suddenly I began growing at a EXTREME rate, so my ribs couldn't follow me, so now it looks a little like my ribs have been pushed back into my chest (You can't really see it THAT much yet, but in time you will).

So... Yeah I'm pretty much VERY scared.. :( Well though I'll be on morphine the first week (I have to stay at the hospital for a week), then I'm going home and HOPEFULLY I will live with the TERRIBLE pains in my chest.

I am DEAD nervous! ;(

I'm praying for you Rav. :hugs: I'm terrified of surgery myself. You just have to remember, they know what they are doing, and they'll make sure everything is alright. I'll try to see if I can call you on your operation. Hang in there. :hugs: :)

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Originally posted by Ravincal
So... Yeah I'm pretty much VERY scared.. :( Well though I'll be on morphine the first week (I have to stay at the hospital for a week), then I'm going home and HOPEFULLY I will live with the TERRIBLE pains in my chest.

I am DEAD nervous! ;(

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Did the doctor mentioning anything about pain in breathing after the surgery? I've had my vocal chords worked on, and it hurt a lot whenever I would swallow... but I can't imagine how it would be like if it hurt whenever I would breathe. Hang in there, though, in the end it will be worth it. Also, they're not working on any organs (or at least from what you said), so there should be no difficulties during the surgery.

Totally random, but a good reccomendation for you is to not listen to any of your favorite music in the hospital. It may seem strange, but from what I've experienced, when you listen to a song when you are distressed or in a bad situation, all you can think about is that time when you were distressed when you hear the song again afterwards.

I'll be away that week as well, I'm going to stay there. It's located 3-4 hours from where I live and no internet or anything.

You can do it Rav, just believe in yourself, when it's done you will be VERY happy! Promise.

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Originally posted by Ravincal
In 7-8 days I'm going through an operation, my ribs are actually going to be breaked out. (Not out of the skin of course). Well, the actual reason is, when I was a kid, I was really FAT! Then suddenly I began growing at a EXTREME rate, so my ribs couldn't follow me, so now it looks a little like my ribs have been pushed back into my chest (You can't really see it THAT much yet, but in time you will).

So... Yeah I'm pretty much VERY scared.. :( Well though I'll be on morphine the first week (I have to stay at the hospital for a week), then I'm going home and HOPEFULLY I will live with the TERRIBLE pains in my chest.

I am DEAD nervous! ;(

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Hope it all goes well for you Ravincal, and you'll have your brother there to support you :) Take care and make a swift and full recovery. Best of luck :hugs:

Goodluck, Ravical. Stay strong, dude.

*sigh* I really don't like to use these advice threads too much, but I need some comforting or something right about now..

I'm going home for Spring Break Friday (I'll have internet there, so I'll be able to keep in touch still ;P ). Now for most people would be like; What's wrong with that? Well, here's what..

I have a growing and sinking suspicion that my siblings hate me, my older ones mind you, my younger siblings love me to death heh. My two older sisters though.. everything they do seems to be a sort of attack against me. They constantly try to turn my parents against me. Saying how spoiled I was when I was a kid and all. And I've admited to them and nmow here as well, among other places, that I was spoiled. However it has stopped, has stopped for quite a long while now, but my sisters fail to see this somehow.

They hate me because they're jealous of my parents love for me? I'm not sure, but one of my sisters is extremely manipulative and has screwed me over so many times it's really depressing to think about. My oldest sister is different, she thinks she can flat out tell me whatever to do whenever she wants to. But that's not what is the worst at all, the worst part is that they want me to be something I am not, and refuse to be, sad thing is that my parents are with them on it.

They want me to be interested in mechanics, carpentry, sports. They expect me to get high and drunk, smoke, do illegal activities.

This is not me.

I hate almost all sports, I find them pointless and boring, save for a select few. I know nothing, nor care to learn anything about carpentry or mechanics. I did use to smoke and drink.. a LONG time back, but haven't since. Besides smoking and drinking under age now and then back in middle school, I've never done anything illegal.. I'm a law abiding person, breaking laws doesn't make sense to me, and the fact that they want/expect me to disturbs me. I don't know.. basic classic personification of an American guy, is what they want me to be, but I refuse to fit into their standards for me.

I really hate going home, and college has indeed become my haven from all of the stupid problems I have at home. There's more to it tha tthis, and I know this 'problem' isn't as big as others in this thread, but it's still something that concerns my heart and soul almost entirely, I actually dread to go home.

That sucks dude. If I was you I wouldn't let it bother me, I'd just let them (your sisters) do what they want. And if anyone wants an explanation about who you are and all...I'd just tell them "I'm my own man, I make my own decisions, you just have to accept me for me."

Thanks Roog, sadly they just refuse to do so =/ ah well

Well the only advice what i can give you, is to organize this sort of meeting with both your parents and your siblings. And really talk and try to work it out. And you tell them how you feel about it, and let them do they word aswell. Everyone needs to know exactly how you feel and whats going on. That is how i would do it, and i think it really c?uld work. Im sorry to hear this, and i hope it'll turn better for you soon. =3

I guess I would let them know how you feel, but may I ask...do you HAVE to go home for Spring Break? If you dread going there, then don't go. In fact, you NEVER have to go back if you don't want to...maybe some time away from you..as in a few years, will give them some time to get used to "you" as an "adult". I guess that sounds a bit harsh, but being in college, and being an adult brings all those things with it. You ARE your own person. regardless of what even your family says...because sometimes they aren't right. Thus, you don't have to stay close to them, visit them, abide by what THEY think is right for you, etc. You are on the right track with your life, and maybe they can't handle it...so if they cannot, yet they still try to change you, then FORCE them away from you so you do not have to deal with it. Just a thought, that's all.

~Kiva

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Originally posted by This Land
Well its simple really,

Do I Quit Collage

over the last month i have been finding collage really hard, its really getting to me and i dont think i can take anymore.

First off its the corse itself, its blooming hard, and the fact that i think its hardly got to do with engineering at all in my opinion. I get handed piontless assignemnts every hour and its really annoying. The amount of student support i get is complete ****.

Next is the students, I Have about 3 decent friends there who dont mind me for my interests (TLK), but then there is about 20 other Tw*** who always treat me like complete ****. And the problem is, they are always with me every lesson, and its pretty hard to ignore them.


I just need advice in should i really quit it, because at the end of the 2 years i do get a "National Diploma in engineering with applied robotics".

So im just really stuck in what to do

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You'r going to hit work, life, everything like a roller coaster. You'll have highs, and you'll have lows. Sounds like you're in a low right now. Why are you at college? Is it for the people? If not, then you've answered the first part well. Yes the students make inflict a character to your atomosphere, which in fact may influence your studies. However you have to be willing to block them out and look onto what is more impotant ; your education. Learning is not a destination but a journey. You have to keep going every day - it never ends. Which isn't bad mind you. Learning is life and in the mordern world, learning is imprisonment and to be away from it is freedom because of atomospheres as you describe.

Engineering. My dad had a fit with that when he was much younger. It's going to seem useless now, idle and invalid. But it's like this ; learn it like you use it and use it like you learned it. Some time down the road you may become interested in a career that requires the knowledge you're obtaining now. You won't have that liberty to say, Hey I can do this! because you've got to go back and learn. Keep going, keep learning and pess on is my advice. Ignore the peer pressure, learn and grow always and don't give up. If you ever need any help, don't be afraid to ask.

Once it's over - you'll feel like a hero. :cheese:

I've thought about it, and I've noticed that I am completely different from who I was. Even up until two months ago, I had self-confidence, understanding of individual's situtions, tried not to judge people, and all that. Now, though, all that is just... gone? I don't know, but it's not there. A while ago, I could debate almost any argument (both online and off); now, if someone even respectfully disagrees on the smallest issue, I feel personally hurt and sad. My self-confidence has turned into self-hate. I used to think logically, but now I jump to conclusions without thinking it through.

I've been thinking a lot lately, maybe too much for my own good. I think about meaning in life and all that, but thing I think about most is death. It is part of almost every thought, and as more than a few on MSN can vouch, it's part of quite a few conversations. To be more specific, I think about my death; I'm not suicidal anymore, not those kinds of thoughts, but more of a matter-of-fact sort of thing. I wonder when it'll happen, how it'll happen, if I'll get a chance to do A, B, C, etc... that I've always wanted to do. I'm afraid, as well. I also think about my insignificance; the more I think about it, the more I realize it. I've decided that I, as a single person, am completely worthless; my hopes, hates, sadness, happiness, accomplishments, and failures just don't matter. That's what hurts me the most, that I am (or think I am) completely insignificant, or expendable. I try to counter those thoughts by telling myself they aren't true, that ever person is significant and all that, because a part of me still thinks that, but it's usually no use. Sometimes I have panic attacks as well, and every so often, I feel a bit like normal, and I'm able to make a comment here or there that's... me, but those times are few and far between.

What adds salt to the wound is that I'm being treated by a professional psychologist and it's really not doing much good. Not to be a drama *****, but this is ruining my life, and what else is there to do? A psychologist is usually considered a last resort, outside of a mental institution; when that last resort is exhausted, what do you do then?


Really, I don't see the point of this post; there's really nothing to be done about the issue and I try to keep my problems off this forum, but for some reason I was compelled to say how I feel, and I did.

Sorry to hear that, Pnt. I guess maybe you feel that way when someone debates or disagrees with you is because you take your opinions and views to heart. So when someone disagrees and such, it is taken more personally. And, in my experience, thinking too much or letting yourself dwell on your thoughts for too long is never a good thing. that's why I always try to keep my mind occupied with things, whether it be studying, conversation, playing ball, etc because my mind is always on...and if I let it wonder it'll come across things that I don't really care to think about too much.

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Originally posted by lion_roog
Sorry to hear that, Pnt. I guess maybe you feel that way when someone debates or disagrees with you is because you take your opinions and views to heart. So when someone disagrees and such, it is taken more personally. And, in my experience, thinking too much or letting yourself dwell on your thoughts for too long is never a good thing. that's why I always try to keep my mind occupied with things, whether it be studying, conversation, playing ball, etc because my mind is always on...and if I let it wonder it'll come across things that I don't really care to think about too much.

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Through what I've gathered so far (Remember, even I don't know myself completely), the fact that I'm so sensitive lately, and my personality change as a whole, has come from the sheer stress of some serious mental things that I need to get sorted out as soon as possible. It's like everything's interwoven, and it all leads back to my insignificance, mortality, and hate for myself; it's taking its toll on me, and that's why I just can't stand the stress of debates right now (and tend to stay out of them). The problem is, these are all very deep questions and issues, and frankly, things I shouldn't be concerned with at this point in my life. But that doesn't change the fact that I am and that it feels like there's so little to be done to help. I just feel helpless, ya know? I've tried covering it up, that doesn't work either. Even when I go to get help or talk or whatever, I feel like crap because I think I'm just "Whining", so when I make an attempt to improve, I tear myself down as well.

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Originally posted by Utora
You'r going to hit work, life, everything like a roller coaster. You'll have highs, and you'll have lows. Sounds like you're in a low right now. Why are you at college? Is it for the people? If not, then you've answered the first part well. Yes the students make inflict a character to your atomosphere, which in fact may influence your studies. However you have to be willing to block them out and look onto what is more impotant ; your education. Learning is not a destination but a journey. You have to keep going every day - it never ends. Which isn't bad mind you. Learning is life and in the mordern world, learning is imprisonment and to be away from it is freedom because of atomospheres as you describe.

Engineering. My dad had a fit with that when he was much younger. It's going to seem useless now, idle and invalid. But it's like this ; learn it like you use it and use it like you learned it. Some time down the road you may become interested in a career that requires the knowledge you're obtaining now. You won't have that liberty to say, Hey I can do this! because you've got to go back and learn. Keep going, keep learning and pess on is my advice. Ignore the peer pressure, learn and grow always and don't give up. If you ever need any help, don't be afraid to ask.

Once it's over - you'll feel like a hero. :cheese:

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Aww, thanks so much Utora :hugs:
That truly means so much to me :hugs:

What is bugging me about collage, isnt just the people and students, its the actual course i am doing. You see im a very practical learner, i learn through "hands on" activities. And the course i am taking is too much paperwork. So ive decided to quit collage but still carry on my education and get a decent qualification through a apprenticeship, which is alot more pratical :)

Pnt - Im sorry to hear this dude, you just have to be yourself, and think think what is right for you, i wish i could say more but unfortunaly im not that good on mental health etc, i dont really know what is feels like.

But i just hope for the very best for ya man and that things improve :hugs:

Hi everyone... I'm posting at a library computer right now... And I walked all the way here. (The library closer to my house is being rebuilt) I don't work tonight, so I thought I would go.

I have some bad news. Some of you may know that my laptop is pretty bad. I can't get it to charge and my dad wont pay to fix it because I'm working right now. (But I need all the money I can for the Europe trip this summer, that's why I got this job in the first place) So, I've been using my dad's laptop after he gets home from work. But his laptop starting having the same problems as mine. One morning he couldn't sign on to his account and he was screaming at me in the morning that it was my fault and at first I didn't even know what he was talking about. He said because I used it last it's my fault there's something wrong with it. He took it some where to get it fixed but now he says I'm not allowed to use it anymore. I started yelling at him, and I said to him, "How am I supposed to talk to my boyfriend?!" (STM) And he said, "I don't care if you can talk to your boyfriend!!!" Talk about being heartless... I HATE my dad. I hate him. Everyday I get more and more unhappy living here. Going online and talking with you guys would always make me happy. Without the internet at my dad's house, I'm so bored... I rarely see my friends here anymore, so that's why going online makes me so happy. So I'm letting you guys know, I don't know how often I'll be online anymore... :( I'm hoping my dad over time will let me use his laptop again. And of course I'll go online for a little bit while I'm at school. (I go to school two days a week right now)

I know this sounds silly but I love you guys. :hugs: Take care... The library is closing soon... I guess I'll call a friend and walk to the mall. (Since it's near by.)

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Originally posted by Sharifu
Hi everyone... I'm posting at a library computer right now... And I walked all the way here. (The library closer to my house is being rebuilt) I don't work tonight, so I thought I would go.

I have some bad news. Some of you may know that my laptop is pretty bad. I can't get it to charge and my dad wont pay to fix it because I'm working right now. (But I need all the money I can for the Europe trip this summer, that's why I got this job in the first place) So, I've been using my dad's laptop after he gets home from work. But his laptop starting having the same problems as mine. One morning he couldn't sign on to his account and he was screaming at me in the morning that it was my fault and at first I didn't even know what he was talking about. He said because I used it last it's my fault there's something wrong with it. He took it some where to get it fixed but now he says I'm not allowed to use it anymore. I started yelling at him, and I said to him, "How am I supposed to talk to my boyfriend?!" (STM) And he said, "I don't care if you can talk to your boyfriend!!!" Talk about being heartless... I HATE my dad. I hate him. Everyday I get more and more unhappy living here. Going online and talking with you guys would always make me happy. Without the internet at my dad's house, I'm so bored... I rarely see my friends here anymore, so that's why going online makes me so happy. So I'm letting you guys know, I don't know how often I'll be online anymore... :( I'm hoping my dad over time will let me use his laptop again. And of course I'll go online for a little bit while I'm at school. (I go to school two days a week right now)

I know this sounds silly but I love you guys. :hugs: Take care... The library is closing soon... I guess I'll call a friend and walk to the mall. (Since it's near by.)

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I'm sorry you will be gone Sharifu, or indisspossed. You will be missed. However - I am more sorry that you hate your father. Sometimes people act out in anger above all things, and yes this is wrong but as you can see it creates a barrier between even loved ones, and family members. I don't know about you and your father's background, but honestly I think before you lay concern to the internet you should go to your father. It's a suggestion, not an order. I only suggest it because I desire to help, and though we don't talk doesn't mean I don't care about you individualy. Hopefully you see as to what point I'm getting at.

No, my father's a jerk and I have felt this way for years and years. Plus the way he has treated my mother, makes me feel this way even more... :mad:

(My laptop is on right now which is surprising me, I can't get it to charge though, so who knows how long it will last)

If I could go to a school like this where my mom lives, I would much rather live with my mom. My dad just makes me more and more unhappy the longer I live here.

Your Dad bugs me, Audra...some of the things he does ain't cool.

So so so sorry to hear this Sharifu, It must be hard going through what you are going through, especially when you cant have that much contact with your mates and your boyfriend :(

I hope so much, that things get better and you can be back online as soon as possible :hugs:

Tips for laptop
- Do the Magic blow on the laptop connections, not too much though. and proberly a very very tiny bit a moisture with it aswell.
- Big computer businesses charge you loads to get it fixed, go to a small company or even look for computer rep[air advertisements in the newspaper etc. they normally charge less as they are in competition with the big businesses
-slightly shake the laptop, if any ratttling is going on , definalty somthing has broken off inside, if it isnt that means its just a loose connection and can be fixed somtimes if you just "wiggle" the power plug into the power socket into the laptop.

beside that there is nothing else i can suggest without taking the cover off the laptop :(.

Again i hope things improve and you get back on track :hugs:

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Originally posted by This land
proberly a very very tiny bit a moisture with it aswell.

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:gasp: nonono... never 'wet' the connectors of a computer...

I'm not as familiar with the way laptops go too much... but I do know that problem usually comes around after a time... it's pretty common... the main solution that jumps off the top of my head would be the battery needs replacing... however, I did find something that speaks a little of this kind of a problem... I hope it helps

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Battery life is special subset of power problems that has as much to do with poor designs as actual component failure. The older NiCd batteries were particularly susceptible to "memory" issues. If not full discharged after every charging, the battery cells begin to remember their previous charge level as a new maximum, and some individual cells may even reverse polarity while the batteries are being charged. Ni-MH (Nickel Metal Hydride Battery) which replaced NiCd (Nickel Cadmium) for standard models are somewhat better, but they can't fight poorly designed charging circuitry or bad software controls. All laptop batteries, whatever the shape, consist of a number of low voltage cells connected in series to reach the required operating voltages. You can rebuild a notebook battery (it voids the warrantee) but it's usually not cost effective

It pays to go online and read the owners manual for extending the life of the battery in your particular laptop model if you didn't do so when you obtained it. Some older notebooks require that you cycle the battery continually, only working on AC power for as long as it takes to recharge the exhausted battery. Many newer models want you to fully discharge the battery around once a week, but otherwise don't care about leaving it plugged in the rest of the time, and newest designs don't care what you do as long as the laptop actually gets run on battery for a reasonable percentage of the time. If you think your battery is running down too fast, make sure you have enabled the aggressive power saving modes in software (usually accessed through Control Panel or the manufacturers icon) which dim the screen, slow the CPU, and let the hard drive spin down when unused. Also, keep in mind that the level of estimated battery life remaining that causes an onscreen alarm can be set by the user, and if your default setting is very conservative (between 10% and 20%), you may want to experiment with a lower level (between 3% and 5%) that will still give you time to save your work and shut down before the laptop goes into hibernation.

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I hope you get your laptop working properly again...

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Originally posted by Sharifu
No, my father's a jerk and I have felt this way for years and years. Plus the way he has treated my mother, makes me feel this way even more... :mad:

(My laptop is on right now which is surprising me, I can't get it to charge though, so who knows how long it will last)

If I could go to a school like this where my mom lives, I would much rather live with my mom. My dad just makes me more and more unhappy the longer I live here.

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I know what that is like, stories from my mom. Like this one, it's funny actually ; My mom had an older sister, Theresa. Their father got cancer from cigs amd ended up dying in a hospital while my mom was about ten. Their mother was basically a ***** and would bring home individual men at night from this bar she went to. While she was at this bar, the three, my mom, Joe, and Theresa sat in the car all day, and they'd send the youngest , my mother, out to beg peeps for food. It wasn't a sob story, but they'd think of her as a cute little girl and give her some snacks and she'd return to give them to her siblings.
The guys my mom's mother would bring home were no better than their mother. Theresa was about 15, a little older than my mother. My mother's mother married one of these men from the bar and my mom hated this man. At the time, my mom didn't know he was mollesting Theresa, but it makes sense now, especially why my aunt Theresa is a lesbian.
My mom tried to feed her step father a can opener in his peanut butter and jelly sandwhich. You know, a 10 year old trying to kill someone; they don't think like a terrorist.

In all - from those stories I know how one can come across to hate or resent their father. So, if the situation with you and your father is in any way a bad one, I understand how you feel. My advice isn't to feed him can openers, but you are twenty and maybe it's time you really took a stand. My brother Nick tried standing up to my father when he was about 17, and they got into a fist fight. ((He's not a bad father, Nick was rebellious at the time)) Not that Nick won or anything but - be careful if you do stand up to your pops - you might loose your chicklets. Hopefully it doesn't become a physicall issue, but to me it sounds as if your father still treats you like a teenager. Maybe he needs to understand that you're not.

Oh I stand my ground with my dad. It never gets physical though, thank god... (And it shouldn't, I mean he's way taller then me and weighs a lot more then me) But that should be obvious.

Yeah, he still treats me like a teenager for some things, and other things he doesn't. I'm going to be 21 next month.

i know how ya feel, all me life, my parents have treated me like a kid... even today... they ***** at me when i go across the street at night :o its pretty sad -.-; and they will stop at nothing to find some way to limit my internet time

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Originally posted by Ravincal
In 7-8 days I'm going through an operation, my ribs are actually going to be breaked out. (Not out of the skin of course). Well, the actual reason is, when I was a kid, I was really FAT! Then suddenly I began growing at a EXTREME rate, so my ribs couldn't follow me, so now it looks a little like my ribs have been pushed back into my chest (You can't really see it THAT much yet, but in time you will).

So... Yeah I'm pretty much VERY scared.. :( Well though I'll be on morphine the first week (I have to stay at the hospital for a week), then I'm going home and HOPEFULLY I will live with the TERRIBLE pains in my chest.

I am DEAD nervous! ;(

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Today is his day for the operation. I ask that prayers and words of encouragement go to him - he's very scared. :(

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Originally posted by Utora
Today is his day for the operation. I ask that prayers and words of encouragement go to him - he's very scared. :(

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As do I,

Pray, Or DIE :die: :roar: Okay maybe I'm kidding.

maybe i'm not :evilgrin:

OKay I am

But I told the guy to be brave and strong, he'll be fine ^^

~KTL

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Originally posted by Sharifu
Oh I stand my ground with my dad. It never gets physical though, thank god... (And it shouldn't, I mean he's way taller then me and weighs a lot more then me) But that should be obvious.

Yeah, he still treats me like a teenager for some things, and other things he doesn't. I'm going to be 21 next month.

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There's lots of fathers like that... most will still treat you as a teenager far into your adulthood ... some because they don't want to see their daughter/son grow up so fast.. others still want to be 'in control' type... while others, just try to get your attention... some just have an odd way of showing it...

Most times you can get them to see you as an adult just by clarifying to them that you have come a long way from when you were young and you can take care of yourself... and most importantly that you do still respect them as your father/mother...

then again there are rare cases where they just don't care... ...but if that were true why hasn't he thrown you out of the house yet?

He threatened to kick me out of the house many times.

And I'm a good person, I don't cause any trouble, so it's not like there's a good reason for him to do that.

I respect my mother, but not my father. I mean I wont be mean to him or anything and if he talks to me I'll talk back.

But I can't stand him. He is the rudest, cheap, most arrogant, cocky, selfish, sexist, racist and homophoibic man I have ever met. :grrr:

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Originally posted by Utora
Today is his day for the operation. I ask that prayers and words of encouragement go to him - he's very scared. :(

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I know, he told me how nervous he was on MSN. I had quite a few long chats to him.

I give the highest of hopes and wishes to Ravincal, i hope he is going to be ok.:hugs:

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Originally posted by Sharifu
He threatened to kick me out of the house many times.

And I'm a good person, I don't cause any trouble, so it's not like there's a good reason for him to do that.

I respect my mother, but not my father. I mean I wont be mean to him or anything and if he talks to me I'll talk back.

But I can't stand him. He is the rudest, cheap, most arrogant, cocky, selfish, sexist, racist and homophoibic man I have ever met. :grrr:

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by your words he certainly sounds evil... yet then again I have never met or witnessed this person... so it would be unfair for him if I only looked one sided... Still... you say he's 'racist, sexist, and arrogant'? ... somehow, I'm glad I never had met him... those three things are some of the things I hate the most. ... the arrogance part reminds me of a verse accually...
Matthew 23:12: "For whoever exalts him/herself will be humbled, and whoever humbles him/herself will be exalted."

I don't want to go into a rant on how much I dispise people like this though... I'll just leave it with 'I can't stand people who are like that...' *sigh* I don't know what to say... the only thing that comes to mind would me 'time and distance'... perhaps if he doesn't see you for a while he'll come to think of you under a better light.

I just need advice on what I should do.

Well, Spring Break is here for us. TWO WEEKS OFF! WHEEEEEEEE! BUT, I feel as if I don't want to go home, back to my mom's place. Almost every time I go there, she complains that she does everything in the house when all she does is drives me home from rugby practice and drops off my younger brother at gymnastics. She is always in a (Pardon my language) ****** mood and it always ends up in a shouting match between how I should run my life and how I never do anything around the house (Believe me, I do plenty). I don't want to shout back at my mom because she is a pretty good screamer. I end up going to my room, crying and measuring to see if my desk would fit through the window. I try to regain my composure to playing drums to Christian stuff. And then there's my mom's boyfriend who is a total jackass when he comes home from work (He's a truck driver by the way). He is telling me that schooling is the best years of your life. (For him, maybe. It's a lot different from when your growing up). I understand that getting a good education is good an' all, but I don't need to hear it from a guy who's full potential is a truck driver for a construction company. I feel like my shoulders are pushing up too much and then one more rock after another keeps getting added, until I finally break down and regain my composure.

My dad is totally cool. He is so much more calm than my mom. He is laid-back, but not so laid-back that I don't do anything. His house is like 10 min from my mom's. I just go there if I have problems with my mom. I was thinking of permantely moving there. But, I've built up a pretty good lifestyle at my mom's, but she is on my nerves. I am a good guy. Ask Noodle, for example. Ask Kiara. I don't know what I am doing wrong. This lion's fire is getting dim.

I just want to relieve stress that has built up in my life.:alone:

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Originally posted by Sharifu
He is the rudest, cheap, most arrogant, cocky, selfish, sexist, racist and homophoibic man I have ever met. :grrr:

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Wow, he could get a job at Primark.

I hope you can get away from him soon Fu :hugs:

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Originally posted by Fire_Hazard
I just need advice on what I should do.

Well, Spring Break is here for us. TWO WEEKS OFF! WHEEEEEEEE! BUT, I feel as if I don't want to go home, back to my mom's place. Almost every time I go there, she complains that she does everything in the house when all she does is drives me home from rugby practice and drops off my younger brother at gymnastics. She is always in a (Pardon my language) ****** mood and it always ends up in a shouting match between how I should run my life and how I never do anything around the house (Believe me, I do plenty). I don't want to shout back at my mom because she is a pretty good screamer. I end up going to my room, crying and measuring to see if my desk would fit through the window. I try to regain my composure to playing drums to Christian stuff. And then there's my mom's boyfriend who is a total jackass when he comes home from work (He's a truck driver by the way). He is telling me that schooling is the best years of your life. (For him, maybe. It's a lot different from when you're growing up). I understand that getting a good education is good an' all, but I don't need to hear it from a guy who's full potential is a truck driver for a construction company. I feel like my shoulders are pushing up too much and then one more rock after another keeps getting added, until I finally break down and regain my composure.

I just want to relieve stress that has built up in my life.:alone:

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hmmm... well, you could inform her of

Matthew 7:3: "And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?"

Basically: look at yourself, and I shall look at myself.
As for the one whom claim 'schooling is the best years' you might want to inform him that things have changed since he was in school... also rememberk kindness out-does anger at every turn. When next she yells at you speak politly, speak gently, and don't let her words get to you. In that way you'd be more the adult than she at the moment. Bye the sounds of it she builds up her frustrations and problems, bottling them up inside. Like a shaken can of soda. Everyone needs to vent their troubles out somehow, to releave the pressure and stress. She, by the sounds of it, chose you to be her outlet, her drain, for the bottled anger.

The best way to releave your own stress is probably find some activity... like drums... some object to be the drain to your own presure... Don't follow your mothers example and use another person as that vent.

I hope for the best for you.

Ok this thing is a little late arriving, if you wanna know why then ask me. And if STL tells you otherwise about this then he's wrong ok?

Long and the short of it, I don't have lung cancer. I did get a letter from the NHS (National Health Service) telling me I had cancerous lungs, but also I got another letter about a fortnight later telling me they'd made a huge mistake with the results and I'd got some 80 year old's results and he got mine. Yes I know you're all thinking "BS" but yeah, I just thought I'd come clean about that, perhaps a little late but yeah. So far I've only told Sharifu and KTL about this, but really you should all know. I guess some of you may have had you're own doubts and whatnot, but this is how it really happened. Again, if you wanna know why I never told anyone until now, then ask me.

Oh and I posted in here because it was the most appropriate place rather than making a new thread which I didn't really wanna do.

well thank god you're alright :)