I'm still going to be his friend. He's a good guy.
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I'm still going to be his friend. He's a good guy.
Sorry I wasn't stating it well. What I was meaning was try to stop having feelings for him except for being a friend. Thus, still be friends with him but don't feel anything other than that. (Which is difficult but nessisary in a way. Stops you being hurt later on. What if he marries this girl, for example?)Quote:
Originally posted by Elliot
Woudn't that be awkward if you just were to stop being his friend? Especially if you really like him? That logic would cause emotional damage, for both.
Marikunin, my personal experience is explained here. Its kinda old news now but... well I'm still daft enough to be recovering from it. Can you see what I mean, what with my personal experience?
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:: hugs Dyani ::
Not really needing advice, but didn't know where else to write this. Didn't want to start a thread. Just kinda down, I have an assignment due in the morning, which I've spent so long researching, but am behind with writing. Working on it now, but I feel so overwhelmed and swamped right now. I haven't been sleeping well either, just can't get to sleep, haven't slept a full night for over a week, it's really starting to take its toll on me. I feel exhausted both physically and mentally. I feel like sleeping for a week, have work all day tomorrow though, not looking foward to that.
i know how you're feeling, i have the same problem now as well, with too much work and barely no sleep, im constantly exhausted and never have a quiet rest or time for myself. Eventually its taking over you, and in my case, i can do nothing about it but to continue to work (cuz during my job as AP, i just cant leave it and say i cant take it more, im going home now ..) i have to be there 15 hours a day 7 days a week, at least for this month, then its summer and i hope i can get some time off then. I wish i cold give you an advice, but i cant cuz i need one myself too .. But things will always be solved in the end, im sure about that, its just to stick around till then and not give up ..
Sleep is very important. If you get any time to do so, try and get some day sleep. You need to offset those missing hours... That's why you're probably feeling exhausted both physically and mentally. That and any stress can cause loss of sleep. Do what you can; and get that much needed rest ...Quote:
Originally posted by Azerane
Not really needing advice, but didn't know where else to write this. Didn't want to start a thread. Just kinda down, I have an assignment due in the morning, which I've spent so long researching, but am behind with writing. Working on it now, but I feel so overwhelmed and swamped right now. I haven't been sleeping well either, just can't get to sleep, haven't slept a full night for over a week, it's really starting to take its toll on me. I feel exhausted both physically and mentally. I feel like sleeping for a week, have work all day tomorrow though, not looking foward to that.
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Originally posted by Azerane
Not really needing advice, but didn't know where else to write this. Didn't want to start a thread. Just kinda down, I have an assignment due in the morning, which I've spent so long researching, but am behind with writing. Working on it now, but I feel so overwhelmed and swamped right now. I haven't been sleeping well either, just can't get to sleep, haven't slept a full night for over a week, it's really starting to take its toll on me. I feel exhausted both physically and mentally. I feel like sleeping for a week, have work all day tomorrow though, not looking foward to that.
that's tough, best advice i can give is if possible, to set aside some time, about an hour or so, to do something that you enjoy. Something relaxing, or just something fun. Sleep is good but sometimes you need a release while you're awake. :D best of luck!!!
@Elliot: I've been trying to get day sleep, I have trouble with it though, and I keep getting disrupted by things so that hasn't worked.
@Lc: Problem is, when I get stressed about things, I draw. Then because I've been drawing instead of what I was meant to be doing, I get more stressed, so I draw more.
I'm just so tired all the time and just can't sleep. I really have to energy and concentration left.
Thanks for the advice though
Because of your age....get 7.5 to 8 hours of sleep. :)
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Originally posted by Azerane
@Lc: Problem is, when I get stressed about things, I draw. Then because I've been drawing instead of what I was meant to be doing, I get more stressed, so I draw more.
ah ok, so there's not enough time in the day huh? this is tough, i've been through some times like that. Try setting some goals, like finish 2 paragraphs of your paper before you can get up or something. Then give yourself a reward at the end of it.(i usually have ice cream, ice cream makes me happy, lol, ok moving on) SO yeah, then set another "2 paragraph" goal. take it one step at a time.
I now work at Jack in the Box. They hired me so quick, and when I applied I said I would only want part time. I watched the manager that hired me, Justin, punch into the computer for part time. The first week I worked there, I worked 41.5 hours, and that's not including training. I worked mainly 8 hour shifts, and one day I did a 6 hour shift. I don't mind the 8 hours..as long as I get at least a 5 minuet break. That's the problem. The secondary manager, named T.K....he doesn't believe anybody needs a break. I asked him , "When I work an 8 hour shift, do I at least get 15 minuets for a food break or something like that?" and he said "Well I've worked her a long time and nobody here takes breaks."
It's ridiculous. I'm standing on my feet for 8 hours through a breakfast rush, and a lunch rush. I do premium quality work...but I can't keep up the good work after about the 6th hour and I feel bad because I like working my best. I ask for a break and he says, "No..I need you.". They're understaffed severely but that isn't my problem...is it? If I stand still for more than 10 seconds he says , "No no...find something to do you can't just stand around."..and I'll catch him standing there talking to people..or just standing still thinking or even taking a fancy lunch break. If we as employees eat, we have to eat where we stand.
I'm not in that good of shape right now..I sat on my *** for about 2 years..but I can do good work.
In America...is a person entitled to a break? I feel like it's law to have some manner of a break..but I'm afraid if I confront him I'll be fired. My mom said she's going to call in the labor board to audit the place. I don't know if she should...what if there is no requirement? If we can't have breaks..I'll have to quit. I work solid 8 hours with no pause, and when I take a chance to stop or even go back and take my medication he criticizes me. My feet hurt so bad at the end of the day, and I had to order in my own shoes for crews shoes..well they haven't come in so a manager told me to wear one of the pair in the break room that somebody left there. They are a size 9..I need a size 9 and a half. My heels have blistered and I get home and my socks have some blood in them. Nothing severe but it's painful as hell right now and I feel as if I'm just weak or I'm not good enough. Nobody else says anything about breaks...then again nobody hangs around for 8 hours unless they are a manager.
I think I'm just going to quit. :zzz:
Dont Quit Utora, you are working hard there so you much enjoy it, its just that your boss is being unfair.
IM sure in America, People are entitled to breaks, you should definalty look it up.
Dont give up Utora, look up your employer rights and shove it in his face, and your mum is going to help you with that so thats cool ^^.
And if he Sacks you because you have told him by law he is not giving you suffient breaks. then you can sue him for Unfair Dismissal. So dont give up Utrora, ^^.
There should be a alloted break when you are on your feet all day long. I found this with a quick google search: http://www.dol.gov/esa/programs/whd/state/meal.htm
There should be plenty of information available on different parts of this page. http://www.dol.gov
I will look more tomorrow and send you any links I find that look useful.
I'd quit, personally.
I'm unemployed too, so it's not like you'd be the only one without a job. But there's a fine line between a bad job and an awful job. A bad job being one that's kinda crap but it'll get you by for a while. Whereas an awful job is one that wasn't worth applying for because conditions are so bad.
Your situation reminds me of when I worked at Primark, the place was roasting hot, usually in the 90s and I was stood up at the back of the store on a cash register for hours on end. We weren't allowed drinks of anything and more often than not we were too busy to go for breaks.
But that aside, I think you should quit Utora. But don't quit before you find somewhere else first, that was where I went wrong. I quit my job because I was so unhappy there and didn't apply for anything to take it over, now I'm sat on my arse all day every day because nobody will hire me.
So yes, quit, but find a replacement job first.
If you work 8 hours, by law; they are required to give you one-half hour break. Most places will give you 30 and 2 15's if you work an 8 hour shift. Fines and/or penalties are plausible by the Department of Labor to your employer.
When you work a full day (8 hours or more) you legally must have a lunch break. This lunch break can't be less than 30 minutes long. And you are also allowed to 15 minute paid breaks. I would suggest familiarizing yourself with the law and letting your manager know you would like the breaks you are entitled to as an employee who is working a full day.
Utora, your situation reminds me of what my sister has had to go through at her workplace. She works at Instore (Formerly ?stretcher, a store that sells homeware products in the UK) They hardly ever give her breaks. The only break they give her is about half an hour for lunch (sometimes less) and she works 9 hour shifts. For the rest of the day, she's kept on the tills serving customers. She has asked to be rotated to the shop floor a few times stacking shelves, but they just keep her on the tills all day and give other people the job. She hates the job and is looking for a new one.
People are entitled to breaks in the UK, so why not in the US?
You shouldn't be entitled to work under as terrible conditions, so if I were you I'd quit. But at the end of the day, it's your decision, not anybody elses. Just do whatever you think is right and then go from there. But personally, if it was me in that situation, I'd quit because I wouldn't think it was right for me to be put under those conditions.
We are, but some employers try and act the fool. Nevertheless, fines can be quite high because of insurance purposes, etc.Quote:
Originally posted by King Simba
People are entitled to breaks in the UK, so why not in the US?
Thank you everyone for the advice. It's brought me to a big conclusion.
I probably just got fired because I didn't come to work today, and instead I slept in. I'm calling in to apologize and see if they need me to finish my shift. Hopefully Justin is in and I can ask him about allotted break and meal times.
It's not hard at all for me to get a job, but I don't like changing it all the time. It's not going to look right on my records.
So far the majority say I should be allowed one half hour lunch break and two 15 min breaks on the clock. I'll try to see what their policy is and if they give me a hard time about I'm quitting.
Splah. Their policy don't mean beans. They can't fire you if you have worked 8 hours, and wanting an half-an-hour. Your boss is exceedingly crooked. If employees follow in his footsteps; then you're in bad shape. Quitting accomplishes "nada." Getting him fired/new management, would be the sure way of doing things.