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Heheh, you're welcome Amaryllis, but you deserve to be congratulated! ;)
In the immortal words of IceCube. "Today is a good day."
Aaah, l'amour ... It's usually just around the corner, or when you least expect it, or when you are so not looking ...
So what do you all think about sex before marriage? :thinks:
dont really see the big fuss about it really. i aint religious, so thats probabally why
but you dont need to be married to someone to prove to them you love them.
i just see marriage as an excuse for your other half to take half of everything you own when they bugger off with your best friend
but thats me :p
I'm in love with that song....Some good Old school HipHop...:DQuote:
Originally posted by Kintaru
In the immortal words of IceCube. "Today is a good day."
And marriage is great....I mean, after you get married, you have the honey moon....People, they go to these awesome places just to stay in their hotel rooms to have sex for 5 days straight and all....:D...I Am So Looking Foward To That!...:D.....But sex anytime is good...as long as she's ready and not just doing it to please me...
Too late. :jejeje: Hehe. It all depends on what the person wants to do. If they want to wait then good for them...and if they don't...then that's good too. As long as it's not forced.Quote:
Originally posted by Nephilim
So what do you all think about sex before marriage? :thinks:
Honestly, as odd as this seems, I think a lot of people who are against pre-marital sex rush to the decision of marriage just for the sex, rather than having sex before and then deciding if the marriage would be good. I'm for pre-marital sex for that reason, and because I honestly don't think that sex is as sacred as most religions make it.Quote:
Originally posted by Nephilim
So what do you all think about sex before marriage? :thinks:
I totally agree with that... People who believe to have sex after marriage rush to get married at a young age.Quote:
Originally posted by Xinithian
Honestly, as odd as this seems, I think a lot of people who are against pre-marital sex rush to the decision of marriage just for the sex, rather than having sex before and then deciding if the marriage would be good.
When I was in middle school, when our teachers would teach us about sex education, our teacher always told us we should wait until marriage to have sex. When I was that age (12 or 13) I thought that's what I should do.
Now that I'm older I don't think that matters. I think it's fine to have sex before you're married. (As long as you have safe sex, both stay faithful to each other and you really truely love that person)
Marriage for some, can be a very very long time away... I mean look at STM and I. If we stay together and eventually want to get married, we wont be able to get married until after we're 30... Or something like that. Because he has a lot to do in Finland before he can move to the U.S. So I should just stay a virgin until after I turn 30?! I mean that doesn't make sense to me. My parents don't really think there's anything wrong with their kids not waiting until marriage, so it's not like I would have the guilt of that in my mind.
But in my opinion, as I said before, I think it's ok to have sex before you're married, as long as have safe sex, you both stay faithful to each other and you really truely love that person.
I was thinking the same actually.Quote:
Originally posted by Daniel
dont really see the big fuss about it really. i aint religious, so thats probabally why
but you dont need to be married to someone to prove to them you love them.
i just see marriage as an excuse for your other half to take half of everything you own when they bugger off with your best friend
but thats me :p
'Cause yeah, in Bart's case ...
His ex took everything with her, apart from her weddingdress, which I almost burned :evilgrin: :lol:
Because Bart kind of makes it clear to me that he doesn't want to get married ...
So what should I do then, just find someone else who *do* wants to get married, "just" to have sex?
Oh, and so what if you're still a virgin at 30 ... My uncle is 48, never found the right woman ...
So yeah, it could happen, but I don't think that's something to be "ashamed" about or anything.
Oh well of course not, I didn't mean it that way...Quote:
Originally posted by nathalie
Oh, and so what if you're still a virgin at 30 ... My uncle is 48, never found the right woman ...
So yeah, it could happen, but I don't think that's something to be "ashamed" about or anything.
I mean I would never have sex with a man if I didn't love him and wasn't in a relationship with him. So I was never ashamed of being a virgin. I was actually proud to wait for someone I love and that loves me too.
I just hear so many stories of young teens who wish they would of waited. It seems like they think they need practice before they do it with the person they really care about. (I would NEVER do that. If someone loves me enough, they wouldn't care how much "experience" I had)
Oh, it wasn't like "a personal attac" or anything, I was actually just saying it in general *blush* :)
It's ok Nathalie, I knew it's wasn't a personal attack. ;)
I'd have to agree with Sharifu. Safe sex may not be the most enjoyable sex, however your life my depend on it. The whole pre-marital sex thing is just something to ensure more of a responsibility than anything else.
What is overwhelming is that younger generations are having sex way too early. There's been I think a youngest I've heard a female having a baby was at the age of 8.
People who normally have sex at earlier ages their physiological need for sexual activity is astonishingly higher than most, a 10/1 ratio.
I'd have to say if pre-marital rules helps, I'd say, "stick to it." Just don't be hypocritical about it, that's all...
Well, I guess you can link that to the fact that the body develops faster than the mind and all...Quote:
Originally posted by SoniqueX
What is overwhelming is that younger generations are having sex way too early. There's been I think a youngest I've heard a female having a baby was at the age of 8.
I believe there was a girl in Peru who was 5 and was pregnant ...
And I believe, a girl can get pregnant when she starts having her period (and some can get it real early, some real late)
Anyways, I agree with Sonique there.
These days it's also mostly like: Oh gosh, she/he already did it :gasp: I haven't, I must do it too, otherwhise I don't belong in the group anymore :gasp:
Haha, yeah, I know your point of view STL, although you sometimes confuses me, because you say like "I wanna wait till I find THE mate", and sometimes you're like "wOOt 16 ..." hehe :)
so he says :pQuote:
Originally posted by SimbaTheLion
You wouldn't believe it if you spoke to me on Yahoo every night like some of you do :p , but I will never have sex until I truly believe I am with the right fur. And I'm with no-one at the moment, so sex with another fur is completely out of the window ;) ...
i agree with most members here. But what i think about sex before marridge? well i wouldnt really know. sometimes im like "hell no! why wait till you are married?" but im also thinking like "well it is something special you should do when its the right time and the right reasons"
I do believe and agree with one thing, have /save/ sex with your true love. The only problem is, that you dont know if youre going to spend the rest of your life with that person..
*blegh* crappy birthdays, I've had my share of those ...
Speaking of 16, StE said that when you get to 16, it really doesn't feel all too great, it just comes and goes. Thinking back now, I prefer to use Lt. Dans phrase,
"Oh nose." :woeisme:
I believe in marriage before sex. We could go way down, deep deep down, but most of you know I'm Christian so that should sum it up :cheese:
I like Roog's comment hahaha, about the honeymoon. I don't think there was anything wrong with his comment, cuz that's USUALY what happens at a honneymoon. :Ooo: Moving on.
But I think that being married isn't just to share things Dan, in a selfish way anyways. You share eachother, which is good enough for me when I find the one I love. But your also bound to eachother, forever.
FYI, Did you know that Ramsees the 2nd had 8 wives and over 100 children. So, let's just say, no matter what happens, have lots of babies and be happy. :D :cheese:
thats......... what i meant :confused:Quote:
Originally posted by Utora
But I think that being married isn't just to share things Dan, in a selfish way anyways. You share eachother, which is good enough for me when I find the one I love. But your also bound to eachother, forever.
i meant share everything, and i meant everything.
house, kids, body parts etc.....
body parts :lol: (sorry, haha)
well, if they're there, use them
nab a kidney if you have the chance :D
I'll remember that last one ;) Since I may never know if I need a new one ... *ahum* different story ...
Also, the thing is, don't rush into things, even though he/she IS the one, you have to be carefull and both be *really* ready.
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Originally posted by nathalie
Also, the thing is, don't rush into things, even though he/she IS the one, you have to be carefull and both be *really* ready.
i was referring to the body partsQuote:
Originally posted by Daniel
well, if they're there, use them
I have to agree with Utora. Well said, Utora :DQuote:
Originally posted by Utora
Speaking of 16, StE said that when you get to 16, it really doesn't feel all too great, it just comes and goes. Thinking back now, I prefer to use Lt. Dans phrase,
"Oh nose." :woeisme:
I believe in marriage before sex. We could go way down, deep deep down, but most of you know I'm Christian so that should sum it up :cheese:
I like Roog's comment hahaha, about the honeymoon. I don't think there was anything wrong with his comment, cuz that's USUALY what happens at a honneymoon. :Ooo: Moving on.
But I think that being married isn't just to share things Dan, in a selfish way anyways. You share eachother, which is good enough for me when I find the one I love. But your also bound to eachother, forever.
FYI, Did you know that Ramsees the 2nd had 8 wives and over 100 children. So, let's just say, no matter what happens, have lots of babies and be happy. :D :cheese:
I'm one of those people that would not prefer to have pre-marital sex. From what I've seen in my life, it can be a very wrong choice. Very. I have a friend that did it at fourteen, and now she's 17 with a 4-year-old daughter, I believe.
And besides, if it's done after marriage, isn't it alot more special that way? =D Call me corny and cheesy, but that's how I feel about it.
*shouts from crowd*Quote:
Originally posted by la_reina
I have to agree with Utora. Well said, Utora :D
I'm one of those people that would not prefer to have pre-marital sex. From what I've seen in my life, it can be a very wrong choice. Very. I have a friend that did it at fourteen, and now she's 17 with a 4-year-old daughter, I believe.
And besides, if it's done after marriage, isn't it alot more special that way? =D Call me corny and cheesy, but that's how I feel about it.
CORNY BUGGER!
:D
No it's not :pQuote:
Originally posted by Daniel
thats......... what i meant :confused:
Like Reina said, it's not only safer but I think it adds a feeling of trust with your partner. I'd rather be married, feel loved, be trusted, and have children with a man that I was forever bound with than live with a man for 3 years, have his kids, then see him disappear. Not that they always disappear, but why not get married if your going to have sex? :confused: It'll do wonders for your child if you have one. And, [this is just me] but if I were to just be with a guy to have sex, then he left, went on his way cuz, "Oh that's done now." I'd feel used. I want it to be a good commitment. And if you really loved someone then you'd marry them to be together forever. :cheese: And you can say, no not true. But if you didn't do it because you were afraid of being tied down to them, then can you call that love?
meh having a mate is a ***** claging in your wallet i say 0.o
nhaa just kidding....even though there is a little truf in it "nope none really just like to be mean XD"
But you know... the thing with about sex before marriage can be very risky, so to say. I mean, sex is a big part of a lot of sexual relationships, but you never know whether you're going to work with a person. *blinks* It really isn't all as easy as it's made out for girls, heh.
Anyway, my views would be that it's a-ok if you're with someone you feel comfortable with, and you use protection. Woo!
Oh dear, the whole "sex before marriage" deal, eh? ... I'm all for waiting til you're married. For me, it's not just about what the Bible teaches... it just makes me feel better about myself. I think it also just makes more sense (some may not agree and that's fine).
I agree wholeheartedly :DQuote:
Originally posted by Eva Janus
Oh dear, the whole "sex before marriage" deal, eh? ... I'm all for waiting til you're married. For me, it's not just about what the Bible teaches... it just makes me feel better about myself. I think it also just makes more sense (some may not agree and that's fine).
A lot of girls feel better when they lose their virginity, but then a lot of those same girls end up with crappy lives in the end, what with having babies at 13 and all.
And Dan, don't be a hater :uhno::p
Well, kids having baby's at age 13, I blame (some) parents.
Sorry if I affend someone with that, but that is my opinion.
Some parents these days, don't give anything about their children ...
My 13-year old kid, will not be going out to party's and stuff like that, at that age.
Far too young to even understand what can go wrong.
Agreed....the guy's gotta know how to do certian things...:DQuote:
Originally posted by Nephilim
But you know... the thing with about sex before marriage can be very risky, so to say. I mean, sex is a big part of a lot of sexual relationships, but you never know whether you're going to work with a person. *blinks* It really isn't all as easy as it's made out for girls, heh.
I belive marrage needs to come before sex like it says in the bible...
For me though, I'd say sex should be non-existant... I dunno... most call me wierd, but I really don't look forward to sex, or even want to ever try it... Imean, whatever happened to just being happy being able to be with someone? Just to sit next to them, or hold them? Or to just see them happy?... For me those are much much more important then sex... Sex should be the last thing two people who love each other think of... That's what I think..
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Originally posted by A-non-a-mus
I belive marrage needs to come before sex like it says in the bible...
For me though, I'd say sex should be non-existant... I dunno... most call me wierd, but I really don't look forward to sex, or even want to ever try it... Imean, whatever happened to just being happy being able to be with someone? Just to sit next to them, or hold them? Or to just see them happy?... For me those are much much more important then sex... Sex should be the last thing two people who love each other think of... That's what I think..
Well, when God gave Adam Eve, he didn't say, "Just look at her. No touchy."
I understand what you mean completely Anon. It usualy is the soul drive for most couples, just the sex. But I think sex is something you get to share with your loved one, and then some. It is not though the only thing to do wtih a loved one. It just happens to be the main topic of the day here on the Love Life Thread. But sex should be something to look forward to once your married, but should not be the only thing you look forward to in the marriage.
I see your point, Anon....But sex is an expression of love...just like kissing and holding hands...but it's a little deeper. Meaning it has more meaning and emotion involved with it than holding hands and kissing. People will abuse sex...just like people abuse other things. But sex should be an expression of how much you love the other person. For me, sex should be a sign of your commitment to the other person.
No sex, no kiddies :bleen: (by completely natural way that is, I mean, 'cause yeah, there are other ways for kiddies, hehe)
haha (sorry)
I have nothing more to add on that sex before marrige issue so I leave it there...
instead I wanna say that it have gone 6 full months ( or well 5 months 29 days and 13 hours ) sinse me and Audra met in person, but still we haven't been in relationship from the beginning like she said.. it took about a week before we got together... and now that is probably happiest day in my life... I do have to admit that I was confused and quite silent the first time I was there but now I am a lot more open and with Audra I can surelly talk about anything.
So I just wanna say I have loved you Audra over a year and missed being near you every moment after we met and when I'm away from you also before meeting you in person I long to be near you. :love:
I agree with Utora 100%
And useing safe sex is cheaply advertised, and does not always work 100% and if you cannot support yourself forget it